"When We Learn Detachment..."

"When We Learn Detachment, We Transcend"

When we learn detachment we transcend beyond here. Consciously, we elevate. Do we ever learn to detach? I feel that this is the biggest lesson that we come here to learn, because we hold onto everything. Everything is mine, right? Mine, mine, mine, my car, my house, my job, my body, my mind, my well-being, my children, my spouse, my disease, my life, and the mys' go on and on. We continue with my this and my that, when everything belongs to God. We belong to God. 

​I am guilty of this possession, it's a habit of mine, saying mine all the time. I contradict myself because I turn around and say that it all belongs to God. God is letting us borrow all of the things that we say are ours, so don't say that you never borrow anything ;).
I have been wanting to write about this topic for the last couple of days, it has been stewing inside of me. I have been reading and listening to audio books, and detachment seems to come up every time. Synchronicity. 

God wants me to hear about detachment because that is something that I need to work on within me. I can honestly say that I have attached to my emotions, certain emotions instead of allowing those emotions to flow through me. The pain that we feel in our bodies comes from emotions being stuck, painful emotions, and they become stuck in our energy centers, down into the muscles. Our thoughts create these emotions.

To truly let go is freedom. In the past, I have held onto many wrongs on my part and on other people's behalf, and the memories became like old heavy and dusty books, stuck in my mind. These books tell a story of all the unpleasant and painful experiences that I have lived through. It is time for me to throw these books into the fire and let them burn. I know the words of them by heart, but I want to wash them out of my heart. 

It is in my personal nature as an INFJ, to keep a storehouse of offenses, even if I have forgiven them, they are stored under the "never forgotten files." If you haven't taken a personality test you definitely could try it out, and the research and read about your personality type www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/jtypes2.asp. I am in constant work on letting go of offenses and hurtful situations, they arise again, and I have to face letting them go again. 
 
I sit down and meditate to face myself over and over again, working on these same emotions again. I meditate to let go of being misunderstood, that's another quality of the INFJ, being misunderstood. In the past, it's made me not want to talk because of being misunderstood, but now, I don't care. There are many things that I don't give care about that I did in the past, because it's too much to hold onto. We have to travel light through this life.

If I have held onto painful experiences, then I can surely hang onto and reminisce on happy experiences. It's all in where we direct our mind. If I continue to replay out the scenes of the hurtful experiences, I am sure to attract more of them, and that is not what I want. So then I wonder, why do I hold onto these unpleasant encounters with life? Why don't I detach from them?

I was listening to an audio today, and it touched my soul, I am going to listen to it again, it talks about the Laws of the Universe, it's similar to the book the Kybalion. It talks about how we can change karma, or create more karmic experiences that we will live out in a different lifetime because we fail to release things, people, and places. Here's the link if your mind is opened to listen, youtu.be/zEr-90Cpj_Q.

As we hold anger or resentment towards anyone, or any situation, we are bound to live through it again, and you know why? Because we have failed in learning our lesson. We create karmic ties with anyone that we find it hard to send love to, we haven't cleared the energetic space, and we create a karmic bond through it.

We hold onto the pain that someone has brought into our lives and we bury it inside, nursing it, then it betrays us bringing us more pain. It can be years and you think that you have released a hurtful situation only for thoughts of it to arise, seeming to attack you all at once. Kick the unpleasant thoughts out before they become comfortable playing out in your mind. When you are paying attention to your mind, you recognize unpleasant thoughts right away. 

We must find a way to detach from painful pasts, people, people that we don't like, offenses, violations, and the feelings and emotions that we tie to them. I am practicing detaching from thoughts, people, and situations. I have practiced this before, but it was rooted in my subconscious mind to attach, so I stopped practicing it. It became uncomfortable, so like human nature, and subconscious actions, I returned back to holding on.

I meditate to detach from thoughts, feelings, emotions, past experiences, future experiences, as I have to come to innerstand that this is a temporary physical experience, and I shouldn't get too caught up in it. I have come here for Divine purposes and the work of God. I have come here to transcend beyond what I didn't learn before. I knew that I would face these challenges, and I am paying karmic debts, so that I can elevate beyond this realm. We have to pay for every intention that we put out in the Universe, whether we pay in this lifetime or lifetimes to follow. Every thought holds an intention, words hold intentions, and actions do too. It is important to know where our intentions stand, and to be completely honest about it.

When we vacate this place, we can't take anything that we call ours anywhere whenever we leave from here. Our soul will travel where our consciousness leads it, and we will leave the rest behind. Our spouse, children, family, friends, even this body stays. Everything eventually returns back to where it came from. We go back to God. 

It becomes difficult for us to get over things like our jobs that we lost, homes, cars, jewelry, material things that we call ours, and it leads to our suffering. It's like losing a piece of our identity, chipping away at our fragile ego. Anything that we hold onto has the threat of bringing suffering upon us. Once we detach from these things they can no longer affect us. 

I stopped holding onto people when I became ill, because people can be finicky in their behavior. One day they love you all over, then on the next, maybe not so much. Especially if you do or say something to tick them off. We all have to work on acceptance and detachment. I accept who you are, as you accept me. I love you and it's okay if you leave. You don't belong to me anyway, you belong to God. That is detachment, and that is saying I release any potential suffering that is attached to me holding onto you. 

Rejection hurts, it physically hurts, and it could be a friend or lover, and it will still hurt the same. It raises questions in one's mind of what is wrong with me? What did I do wrong? "I really messed up." Then we fall into a low vibration beating ourselves up, not remembering that whatever God has for us it is for us.

I have detached from the way others behave towards me, because it's not personal. It's how they are feeling inside about themselves that determines how they will interact with me. I detach holding onto the way they are, because if I focus on "the way they are," I lose sight of what I need to be doing on my journey. Let it be. Let it come and let it be. 

I detach from regret, and any past experiences that brought me to feel regret, I was supposed to learn that. I will give no emotion or feeling to what happened, it just is. When we don't want to live out the same experiences with a person lifetime after lifetime, we must detach from them, releasing them, and forgiving them. I am talking about detachment from people, because that is the hardest for us to do. We become upset with losing material things, but we are bound to get over them quicker too. 

We have to stop identifying with painful experiences, because if we don't we will wonder why we feel that our lives suck. We will wonder why we keep having similar experiences. We have to detach from the outcome and the expectations of things. We want something or we are manifesting something, asking God for it, but we are holding onto the outcome. And if the outcome doesn't turn out the way we wanted it to, we are hurt, and disappointed. We get hurt through our expectations. 

"True detachment allows for deep involvement—because of the lack of attachment to outcome. The trick is behaving like an Oscar award-winning actor playing a role: become fully emotionally immersed and recognize that you can step outside of the character and be objective. The emotions in that moment are just as real as your dreams, goals, and plans. This ability to recognize that you can step outside and reflect—to not attach who you are to any desired outcome—is what true detachment is about." chopra.com

"Clues You Are Attached"
When you are attached to an object, a goal, a dream, or another person, there are feelings that tell you “If I don’t have that, I won’t be whole.” These are feelings like:

Anxiety
Fear
Anger
Jealousy
Hopelessness
Sadness
Disconnection
Pride
Vanity
chopra.com/articles/5-steps-to-detaching-for-a-happier-life

If we can drown out the opinions of others and what we think they say, and feel, we can be free from attachments, we can be liberated from the outcomes. If we let go of what we think defines us, what we feel we are supposed to be, we can detach from things, and just be. Be the Divine presence that we came here to be.

It's not that we won't miss these people, these things, we just have to learn to let them be. 

​They don't belong to us. 

Thanks for supporting me, and reading my words, "God's words." ;)

When we learn detachment, we are free. 

So much love to you, I love you,

Quel

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