I know you love yourself, and you can always love yourself more each day. Showing yourself love and kindness will make you feel better about any situation that you are facing.

This is not a cliche' speech of "I love myself."

I am not speaking of vanity, and being preoccupied with one's exterior presence. I am talking about what lies beneath the surface of the shell. I am referring to the tune of your heart, the flow of your thoughts, the truth of your words, and the kindness of your actions.

For the truth about love is what's happening inside
the outside shows lies
hides to create and fantasize
shielding what's happening inside.

When you love yourself more, you will recognize and protect yourself from those that don’t.

Loving ourselves brings back what’s natural for us. By being gentle with ourselves, we begin to remember what we love to do and pursue those things. It is our one true nature to love and be love, be loved. Loving yourself is a practice and it takes conscious work when you’ve been practicing self-betrayal and self-sabotage. It takes breaking the habits that we don’t recognize as self-limiting and self-defeating patterns. 

To forgive is freedom for us, to forgive is for us. Yet we don’t have to continue to expose ourselves to the same people who hurt us just because we forgave them. In fact it’s the opposite, loving ourselves is protecting ourselves from the people who have brought us pain and hurt us with no remorse. We are left scarred, then we criticize ourselves for not knowing better. This does more damage. The words that we speak to ourselves become our reality.

What I need to know is revealed to me. Whatever I need comes to me in Divine right order.

Forgiveness is creating peace so that you will have peace. Because you can never have true peace without total forgiveness. Your heart must not be disturbed by anyone and anything to have total peace. The energetic air must be cleared between you and all conflictive situations for you to have peace. The stain must be removed from your mind, cleansed, and put away. You can't give any of your energy to the situation, you cut the cord. It cannot have any of your attention and focus in a way other than understanding the message.

To forgive the people who will never admit to betraying you, disrespecting and hurting you, the people who don't care about hurting, it takes a high level of awareness and compassion for yourself. This takes forgiving someone who is not even sorry.  Aware that these people are infants in the spiritual realm, awaiting their awakening, you have compassion for them by showing it to yourself. You come to a feeling of it being okay, because they know not what they do. They may think they do, yet they do not.

They think they’re getting away with it, but they’re just getting by. Everything comes full circle in time, 369, three-dollars and six dimes. These people need to heal, yet refuse to do the work that it takes. 

To love ourselves is to protect ourselves from harm and pain. If I came up to you and tried to punch you in to strike you in the face, would you block my hand and defend yourself? If someone was trying to choke you, would fight them with everything that you have inside of you to save your life?

We protect our physical in a powerful way bringing out strength through adrenaline that we couldn't have imagined having when faced with danger?

So why not protect your heart in the same way?

Why not protect your heart by listening to it first off?

Why not guard your heart against people who don’t mind breaking it?

Protecting your heart is protecting yourself.

How about protecting your heart from people who don’t love themselves?

Our hearts need more protection because our heart pain and injury doesn't heal as fast as a physical wound. No one will know the depth of our pain. 

The key is to keep our heart protected and open. 

When we don’t practice self-love, it’s hard to be conscious in our choices when it comes to matters of love. We look past huge red flags early on because we have developed a high tolerance for looking over them, not wanting to accept what we see. We want it to be different, and we end up making more of the same. It looks different, but time reveals all. This happens to us in friendships, romantic relationships, and even with family because we are not giving the love to ourselves that we seek from others. No one can provide the love that you need for you like you. Everything that we experience happens inside. You taste from the inside, you hear, smell, and feel from the inside.

We struggle with knowing when to say no without practicing self-love. We say yes to people who eventually bring us pain. Our expectations of others can bring us pain when people don't live up to what we imagined them to be. We put people before us again and again that would never do the same in return when we don’t practice self-love. We leave ourselves empty. We lose ourselves and stop doing the things we love for love, and that is where we go outside of loving ourselves. 

Loving ourselves is taking good care of ourselves.

Self-love practice is a healing practice. It is unlearning overextending ourselves. It’s keeping our own rules, yet being flexible and reasonable in change. 

People who don’t love themselves don’t understand or have real compassion for hurting you. They lack the awareness and humility for what they do to others. They really don't feel good inside, so they don't have the energy to care about how someone else feels. They are holding onto so much fear and pain that is creating a chemical warfare inside of them, that they are trying to hide through ego. They don’t worry about karma, they believe that they can cheat it, or that it won’t be that bad if it comes around to them.

If they're hurting, why should you get to feel good?

Self-hatred is one of the most disguised feelings. It can be masked in many ways, yet always reveals itself in divine time. It sticks out, look close enough you can see it. We practice self-hate when we tell ourselves that something is not good enough about us. Through guilt, shame, and criticizing ourselves practices self-hate. The people that we choose to engage with can show self-hate.

Self-love looks like being you and not giving energy to what another thinks or says about you. It is accepting yourself deeply and completely, how you are now. It’s being you, living in your truth, even when your closest friends and family don’t support you. It’s moving forward even when it’s scary and painful, you flow with the progressive flow of the Universe.

Self-love is eliminating old programs that you think you've been running, yet they are running you. You have to unlearn the patterns that have been keeping you away from experiences that you are seeking. On repeat.

We break malignant patterns through tapping into our subconscious mind to remove the barriers. This takes every day conscious effort and inner work. I work on doing this every day, removing energy blocks, recognizing when I am irritated, and moving and making decisions out of alignment. These decisions bring about the biggest lessons for me, great change inside of me. 

When you love yourself, you can feel when a person doesn’t love you. You don’t have to ask, you will know by the way that they treat you. 

How you love you sets the tone for how others will love you. If you have a low love tone in place, you will attract the low lovers. If you are willing to accept anything, then you will receive anything, and that is with anything in life. As we teach people how to treat us by what we allow. What we allow has everything to do with our self-worth. Forgetting your power, forgetting that you knew love before you knew anything else. You may have not known what to call it, yet you knew it felt good, and it felt safe for you.

It will break your heart to see that they don’t love you the way that you love them, and when you see, you go.

You go, nothing more.

It doesn’t matter if it’s a friendship or romantic relationship, a love injury hurts just the same, when you feel it, go. 

That is loving yourself, listening to the voice that protects and guides you, the voice that says, "Go!"

When you go, you are showing yourself love. You are protecting yourself, because you know that love just flows naturally, it doesn't have force around it. 

Whenever you love yourself, you don’t focus on the people who don't love you. You overstand that it’s a waste of time, and of lack of love within to be focused on someone that's not aligned with you.

Stay away from people who can't see your heart. 

No one is going to take care of your heart like you do. It is called "the mother organ," of our body, and the name explains it all. 

Everything that you need, you came here with inside. God prepares you plenty for your journey, so when someone doesn’t want to accompany you on your journey, they have served their purpose. Step aside and let the lesson move out of the way so that you can gain the reward from it.

You set the standard for love. You deserve the love that you give so freely to others.

When you love yourself, you know the love that you deserve. 

Only what is real will remain.

I am sending infinite love to you.

Love,

Raquel 
newdayze.com
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Anger is not our true nature that's why it feels so unpleasant. It is why harboring anger can make us sick, because it turns into toxic waste, a parasitic feeding energy that spreads. It harms us and our health, because it places us out of balance with our true nature.

We don't want to be mad. We get mad at people for making us mad, how funny is that?

The after taste of anger is defeat. You never win against anger, it just uses you, and uses you up until there is no viable energy left in you for you.

It's not that we won't get angry, anger is a natural response. Anger is not the real problem, holding onto it is. When we find it difficult or impossible to release the anger, we become captive, and out of control with self.

Anger is always about something that we cannot control. It is deeply rooted in fear about losing control of situations that we never had control of in the first place. Anger is attached to the past, about what happened, and its feelings are never about the present moment for long.

Anger connects us, especially when we are angry about the same thing. This same anger can destroy us and our connections to each other. Anger creates separatism and gives the illusion of ego power.

We connect more through love.

Even though it's easy to get angry, anger is not an easy feeling. It's uncomfortable and feels yucky because it places a dark energy around us. Remaining in an angry state takes a substantial amount of our life force, and as easy as it may seem to us to be in anger for extended periods of time, it is extremely hard on our bodies.

Being in an angry state weakens our immune system, making us susceptible for getting sick. We give away our awareness in anger, our consciousness can't be heard. While in anger we do things to hurt others bringing them angry energies, and we don't realize how far the energy will travel when we pass it. We don't care whenever we're angry, we want to be heard, we want revenge, we want it to be the way that we want it to be.

We lose understanding forgetting that there are higher powers at work.

If you become angry about something, taking your anger out on someone else, especially someone who isn't able to equally defend themselves, you pass this destructive energy on to them. They are more likely to hurt someone else because of the pain that they feel from being hurt by your anger. This is how children get hurt by parents and other children.

Even if you don't believe in spells, anger is a spell. The words we speak create spells; spelling.
Spell definitions I found in an old dictionary and online: an indeterminate period of time
Middle English, talk, tale, from Old English; akin to Old High German spel talk, tale
: a spoken word or form of words held to have magic power
: a state of enchantment
: a strong compelling influence or attraction

Ex: Dad is angry about problems with work and/or his relationship with Mom, something that he needs to heal inside, and the child does something like; being too loud, not doing a chore, it could be something small. As this unhealed anger festers in Dad, he then takes it out on the child going overboard in disciplining the child. Child is angry and hurt, feeling that it was unfair to be treated as such by someone he loves and someone who is supposed to protect him. The child has no escape. Child takes out anger on bullying other children, or even subtly creating chaos between siblings and peers. Child doesn't feel love, and feels angry. Child performs and lives a facade to make the parents happy. This is not the child's job.

This scenario is one of many. Children are being abused across the world because of some adult's unhealed anger. This could be the Mom, and she could be angry about how her life is going, she could be angry at the father, becoming 10 times harder on the child to try and make the child different from the father in her eyes. She creates more damage than an absentee father with this overbearing behavior. She is angry, and her harsh and criticizing words beats the child down, showing disappointment at the slightest infraction from the child. She is creating an angry damaged person who will have a difficult time believing that they are enough. This child will be prone to hurting others or allowing themselves to be chronically hurt by others no matter how much love is present or absent.

Codependent adults are children that walked on eggshells.

Anger is a contagious powerful energy leaving a trail of defeat. It completely zaps us of our vital energies that we NEED.

Anger is passed on and on until someone puts a stop to it. It continues until someone says, "I am in control of how I feel." "These emotions aren't mine, and I release them with ease." This destructive emotion continues to pass until someone says, "no more!"

I am that someone. I broke through my anger. I was more mad than I could ever imagined being and when I looked inside, I realized that I was only angry with myself.

I was angry about things that I couldn't control. I was angry about my past choices that didn't turn out like I wanted them to. I was angry because I was sick. I was angry because I had to change my whole life. I was upset about what I had lost. I was mad at how doctors had treated me, how they didn't listen to me, and how I let them in. I was hurt about being misunderstood. I was taking the blame for everything. There is no blame, all happenings are Divine works in Divine time.

Anger is dripping in pride, letting our false ego drive. It's not to eliminate or suppress the ego that's ever present, it's to merge with it in balance.

Your anger has a purpose, use it for your benefit.

We can use anger for our benefit. It took anger to get me started on my healing journey. I had to be fed up with being sick and feeling emotionally and physically drained. I am continuously using anger to propel me forward. I use anger to heal my body, financial situations, and undesired life circumstances. I use anger for change. I use anger to beat defeat. More importantly, I use anger to understand. In anger, I am led to understanding and purpose. I am led to let it go.

I see the anger, and recognize it's presence, I go inside for why, and I transmute it into something powerful.

When I am powered by anger, I overpower anger. I choose healthier ways to deal with my anger.

I use anger for higher purposes to conquer whatever's trying to beat me.

Anger is a natural response, yet not our true nature.

Anger is reflection of the unhealed, a deep reflection of what we feel in fear.

Our true nature is love, and all that stems from it. We get angry for someone hurting us or someone we love, and that is expected. It becomes toxic when the anger stays, becoming a temperament, turning into resentment, blaming ourselves for not preventing what happened, when we never had control.

I know that anger is always present, just peeking around the corner, so I use it for my benefit instead of letting it use me.

It's so much healthier to feel happy. It feels good to feel happiness.

All that matters is that you feel good. The stuff I used to get angry about in the past, I smile at now, and it's a real smile because I understand. I understand that it’s easier for people to project rather than reflect.

Affirmation: I am balanced, calm, and serene whether life is going the way I want it to or not.

So much love to you, may you feel peace, that is unmovable by all around you.

“He who blames others has a long way to go on his journey. He who blames himself is halfway there. He who blames no one has arrived.” ~Chinese Proverb

Raquel
newdayze.com

I don't even get mad anymore, I be like, "let me know if it's a problem then, aight man holla then." ~the Real Kayne :)

This is about everything. It's been awhile since I have talked to you, and while I was meditating it came to me to blog. When I was writing last night before bed, it came to me, "I need to blog." I have made a career move that has been taking up the majority of my time through its training. It's getting easier every day and I am excited about that. 

I know that everyone is facing some kind of challenge with the transformations that 2020 is bringing us. And while many say that they can't wait until 2020 is over, 2020 is just a precursor of what's to come for the next few years while we move through this spiritual world war III.  

Be kind. Let it go. Take the higher path, it's less traffic up there. 

I didn't know what I was going to  write about because of the transition that I feel myself going through. I have much to share with you. This isn't a scary process for me since I have been down this awakening road before. External circumstances definitely ignited this transformation that I am going through and I welcome it all because it's all happening on the inside. I am grateful for the adversities that I have faced over these past month because they pushed me out of places where I felt stagnant. They showed me things in a way that I can never unsee. It moved me to a place of forgiveness for myself and others, for they know not what they do. 

There was a time when I didn't understand why Jesus said, "Father forgive them, for they know not what they do," as they crucified him. I understand more than ever now why he would choose to speak those words at that moment. Now when people say or do hurtful things to me, it doesn't hurt like it did before. I am weightless. I know that what others do is because of them, and whatever they're going through inside. When people hurt you, they really don't know what they do. As they really aren't hurting you, they are hurting themselves.

Master Law of the Universe, the law of cause and effect applies to everything. For every action brings a reaction down to the smallest detail. Everything that we think, feel, do, we send out into the universe, there is energy attached to it that never dies, only transforms. It comes back to us how we send it. We can curse our own lives through how we treat people, especially the people that we feel can do nothing for us. 

I have found myself in a place of acceptance as things come and as they go. I've wasted time in resistance pushing against hard boundaries, and in essence pushing against my own self. Trying to have a tug-a-war with God, clearly losing, sliding through mud, and feeling the pain of the rope as it burns and cuts my hands. I had to release and let go. I surrender over and over again, being obedient to God and the Divine path that has been planned before me. I am grateful for God's direction and correction. 

We can't manipulate the way that people see us, we shouldn't try. They will always see us from the view of their inner world. We see what's inside of us, and often we deny that voice, until it gets louder, manifesting in the physical form.

This process of transformation has led me to be more honest with myself, more self-care, and eliminating things that don't sit right with my soul. When I start feeling resistance, I listen. We transform over and over again, the process never stops, it's life, a fibonacci pattern of life, never-ending, coming out of the mud like lotus flowers, over and over again.

I shared my feelings with you because I know that I am not alone in facing challenges since the shut down and other events in 2020. I've come to give you encouragement on your path, to urge you to flow with life's current, you will get to each destination. As we go against the current of life, we are nearly drowned to be pushed to our next destination, because we will be going in the direction of our fate. 

There is somewhere for you to go, for you to be. Remember, we are always coming and going, that is a law of our eternity. Whatever you're facing won't last always. There is a season for you, a time, and this is the time to prepare yourself every day for receiving all the good that life has to offer you. Whatever you lost, will be replaced with something greater than your eyes can see.

We have to be in a vibrational frequency to receive what is already waiting on us. We must know that we are one the universe moving with it, as it is working with us and for us, even when it feels like it's working against us. It's just a test. Life is just a series of tests, and we keep taking the same test until we pass it. 

We will keep living the same life that we have created, with the same patterns, until we interrupt this pattern. 

If you want to experience real change in your life, stop falling for the same old traps. The same traps that take you outside of yourself, the ones that get you angry, triggered, sad, depressed, frustrated, the uncontrollable, don't keep falling back 10 spaces because of it. It's a trap!

Don't let the word of others hold weight over you. It is their opinion and that doesn't make it right. Do what you are called to do, what is in your heart to do, what sets your heart free, do what you see yourself being. 

This year may be about major transformation with all of these planets in retrograde, Saturn-Pluto transit dishing out karma, newly Mars retrograde that brings out all of the anger, frustrations, and shadows within us that need healing. We are to be aware that these cosmic shifts are happening around us and within us, moving into higher consciousness with them. These shifts help us in clearing up our karma, cleaning our lives.

It's time to break the old paradigms, the old programs that haven't been working for us, that have become useless cycles, making life more difficult for us. It's time for us to have boundaries against the people who don't respect our boundaries. It's time to live and do what we really want to do, you don't know how long you will be here. Time is the real currency, the real wealth. How much time freedom do you have? Who does your time belong to?

It's time to stop talking about what we are tired of, and do something about it.

Are you really tired of the same ole same ole thing happening in your life?

Meditate.

Meditation has helped me and continues to help me in breaking cycles that can keep me bound to old programs. Meditation helps me in not carrying the hurt and pain that I experience in my life. It makes me see through a different lens, with understanding eyes. I look for the lesson in everything. I remain aware and in balanced energy so that I can receive Divine messages.

When good happens, good, when bad happens, good, because there is something for me there, there is a message that I need to hear, and in bad I discover that I hadn't been listening. I discovered that I had strayed too far from God, from my true nature, walking to the beat of another's drum, ignoring my own feelings from within. I have learned to disconnect, to let it go, to be. 

God is the Source of my Supply. When we don't go to God before we make choices, we are ignoring ourselves too, and we end in regret, a big lesson learned. Meditation brings me an inner peace like none other. It tells me that even when life isn't going the way that I want it to, I remain calm, poised, and balanced, because it is God working in all phases of my life, and Divine law and order reign supreme in my life. 

This is about the shift, allow your entire being to shift with it. When you shift against it, you will suffer, and feel pain. Something new, something beautiful, a profound experience is waiting for you over the horizon. It's waiting for you. 

I have gratitude for everything and with each experience I have learned. I am always looking for something good to happen. Something good is about to happen. I keep my heart in that place. 

Thanks for hanging in here with me. This is my release. I have more to come. 

May you enjoy a calm mind and spirit, with abundance flowing freely in your life, bringing you perfect peace. 

Infinite love to you all,

Raquel

newdayze.com

The external events that's been happening all around us changed the way that we live seemingly overnight. We have no control over what's happening in the world, we don't control how the planets move, we only control our inner world. We have been pushed out of comfort zones and into the unknown waters of life.

We are also living through major planetary changes like Eclipses and Saturn Pluto transit with retrogrades. It's been quite the ride, a wavy, surf's up, surf's down ride. Saturn governs our karma, it is a parent planet, and we are seeing the effects of instant karma happening all around us every day. Pluto brings forth transformations, revealing our shadow side, highlighting what needs healing inside of us.

Some of us are experiencing major transformations, especially after the July 4th Eclipse. Eclipse's reveal secrets, and brings the truth out. We have been seeing the truth coming out anywhere and everywhere, if your eyes are open, you can see it.

What truth has come forward in your life?

Have you been pushed into change?

I hope you deliberately talk to yourself.
I hope you intentionally say the kindest words to yourself.
You are having conversations in your head all day, you may as well talk about something good, something progressive.

We have the best conversations with ourselves. We come to resolutions talking to ourselves. We gain insight about who we are in talking to ourselves, and listening to our inner voice.

Before we knew of anyone else existing, we were talking to ourselves, asking "where am I? Wondering what is here?

It's the talk that we have with ourselves that determines our outer experiences, and how we feel about them. Whatever we're saying to ourselves over and over again shows up in our mood, our attitude towards ourselves and others, and our experiences.

We can talk ourselves into success, just as quickly as we can talk ourselves out of success.

It is our self-talk that works for us when we trust it, and work with it, instead in opposition of it. How do you speak to yourself?

No one knows more than you how much love that you need. Give this love to yourself.

Speak the most kindest gentlest words to yourself.

What could you say to yourself that would make you feel good inside? Imagine that, follow your good feelings.

If you are speaking to yourself in an angry voice, you will feel anger. If you are telling the story that upset you to yourself again and again, you will feel anger, sending out and receiving vibrations of anger. If your mind is calm, your entire body's system follows in calmness.

Are you participating in arguments as you talk to yourself?

Are you saying to yourself, "I should have ... this?" "I could have .... this better?

Are you speaking to yourself about being angry with someone else? You know that you're directing that anger towards yourself, right? You hurt yourself more with your anger than you will ever hurt anyone else. They can never care more about your feelings than you.

We feel emotions, but they are meant to pass through us, emotions are just energies in motion. Our emotions come from what we have been telling ourselves.

Think for a minute about what you think about. What are you saying to you? Are you being hard on yourself about something that didn't turn out the way you hoped? Are you replaying hurtful words that someone else said to you? Are you allowing their words to leave a tough stain in your mind? This is your mind and you have the control over it. You also have the gift of picking and choosing what you talk about to yourself.

There are no secrets, not even the ones that we keep to ourselves. They just manifest in our lives, sticking out in some kind of way, reminded us that they are not really secrets. Each thought carries a vibrational frequency which travels beyond us. Our words echo inside and outside of us, sending out strong signals, inviting what we're fearing, inviting what we're loving.

Every word that we speak is an affirmation.

We say the same things over and over to ourselves, so why not make sure that those words are empowering?

I am getting better and better everyday.

I think, speak, act, and feel in abundance.

I am balanced, serene, and calm whether life is the way I want it to be or not.

I am grateful that I am enjoying good health.

God is the Source of my supply.

All my needs are met at every moment of time and space.

I am grateful for God's wealth all around me.

I have love, peace, and joy in my spirit, and people feel it.

Talk yourself into what you want to achieve. Talk yourself into what you want to attract into your life. Talk yourself into having the confidence and courage to do it, whatever it is. Talk yourself into letting go what's no longer adding value to your life.

Talk to yourself in the present moment. There is nothing that exists outside of this moment right now. We are powerless outside of the present moment.

Drown out any voice that's louder than yours.

How we talk to ourselves plays a large role in our how we care for ourselves, and it shows the love that we have for ourselves.

How do you feel right now? That's how you know how you've been talking to yourself.

I'll holla,

​Raquel

It's not meant to be controlled, this is why you can't control it. It was always beyond your control, even if you didn't realize it. 

I haven't spoken to you all in quite some time, with the abrupt extreme changes that the world has faced over the last 2 months, it has drastically shifted every thing in my world. Not only did the unexpected happen with the world being quarantined, but my family has faced some unexpected changes and challenges with it. I haven't felt quarantined at all, and I have been faced with more responsibilities than I had before the shutdown.

Even though this has happened, it hasn't moved my faith to uncertainty, lack, and fear, it has made my faith stronger and wiser. I have experienced a massive shift inside about how I feel about life, my life, and where it is headed. I accept letting go of things and people at this point that no longer serve my highest good. I don't mind releasing anyone who pushes fear because they are filled with fear. You can always tell what someone is afraid of because they try to get you to fear it too. 

You have to be spiritually strong from those that try to project their feelings and fears onto you. People will sit in fear for years over things that they have no control over. One of my favorite affirmations is, "God is in control." Those 4 words soothe all fears for me, because I know that everything that happens in or around me is through a great Divine plan. I know that everything that I experience is for my highest good. 

Even if the experience is unpleasant and uncomfortable, I realize that it is stretching me to grow, to move beyond the bounds of which I have been standing comfortable. I can do, I can plan, I can be conscious, but I understand that God is in control.

We have been known for wanting to control everything, We make plans and then when things don't go as planned, we get upset and disappointed. We hold onto things that we have no control of, we worry about things that we can't change or control bringing on anxiety, frustrations, and depression. We keep things in our mind that have no business being there because there is nothing that we can do about it. 

We hold on until this thing absolutely rips our lives apart, ripping us apart, and subsequently coming to realization that we had no control over what we were trying to control. 

We can only control our inner environment, what happens, when it happens, is all beyond the scope of our control. There is a word that I was always told as a child, "Let Go and Let God. I have literally brought about grave sickness in my life through worrying about what I had no control over. I just kept worrying and stressing until my body said no more. My body said, "no longer can I take any more of these thoughts, these feelings, my heart said, "this is too heavy for me to carry," and I have to let you know. My body was screaming for help, for love, for comfort.

Holding onto things trying to manipulate them to my fashion instead of letting them fly free has cost me my peace before, but I learned. 

In dealing with my problems the most unhealthiest ways, in secret, in guilt, I learned how to deal with them the healthy way. I learned how to regulate my emotions instead of being swallowed by them. I learned that gratitude is a life saver. Gratitude cancels out worry, it's too strong for worry to wrestle with. When we can say that we are grateful for every single thing that has happened and that is happening in our lives, we have truly arrived. We have figured it out. We have come to understand that there is something greater working in our behalf. 

We can't control what someone says about us, how they feel about us, what they think of us. What someone else feels about us shouldn't take up any space in our mind. Not only is it beyond our control, but more than that, it doesn't matter. It only matters how we feel about ourselves because we can only feel what we feel inside. We know what we go through and what we've been through. We can't feel other people's feelings. We may be able to get a glimpse of what someone else is feeling, but we don't fully feel what they are feeling, it doesn't matter how empathetic we are.

Whatever we put our focus on has the ability to control our lives, in fact it does control our lives. Being that the mind can only focus on one thing at a time, then whatever we place our focus on will be the thing that leads and rules our lives. I work to maintain a high level of awareness of who and what I let into my life and to stay in my life. If a person lives in fear, I will more than likely keep far away from them as possible. Fear can be contagious, it easily seeps into our subconscious mind, ready to play out. And once I see that a person projects, promotes, and wallows in fear, I move around. But in moving around, I look inside to see what I am vibrating to bring this type of energy before me.

I monitor what I let my eyes see and what I allow my ears to hear. I know that if we continue to focus on something, giving our attention to it, it will grow and become dominant in our subconscious mind. I aim to be aware of my presence in mind more than I aim to control it. Because what is in our conscious mind at any given time is a message. It is something that has come to surface so that we can heal it, and move beyond it. 

​Realizing..

God is in control. 

If I could ask for anything it would be for more awareness, not control.

Thanks for reading!

Infinite love to you!

I'll holla

​Raquel 

Do the things that make you feel good. Those are the things that will lift your vibration higher. While we are home and given the opportunity to focus on ourselves, this is the time for us to work solely on ourselves, emerging, transformed. This too shall pass. Whenever we work on ourselves, we affect the whole.

I haggled over what I would write about today. I went back and forth with topics, choosing this one, and starting on another one. My well is full, clear, and flowing. I was looking forward to writing to you all day. We have said to ourselves and others that we don't have time to do the things that we have always wanted to do. We talk about being too tired to get things done. We are too tired to do the things that we enjoy. Well this is definitely a time of stillness. It is for us to be still within and outside of ourselves. The answers are coming in quickly to us, we have to be open to receive them, or we will miss the entire message.

This time has brought a collective sense of humility over us. We are lighting up on the inside and exploring what we can do on the outside.

I feel a sense of excitement and a deep feeling of gratitude. Just think, we have a chance to do the things we want to do, the things we need to do, it is all a part of the Divine plan for us. I am grateful and happy to have the chance to reset. We get to spend time with our families, and teach our children the things that they won't learn at school. If we looked at this as the grand opportunity that it is, we wouldn't have time to be afraid. The days of being scared are long gone. This is an awakening, the uncovering, a new arrival, a certain faith. I asked this in my blog a few weeks ago, "Do you feel the inner shift?" Well do you feel it now?

If you don't, then you're not in touch with your senses.

We can be cautious in this time, but if we are worried, we are sure to attract the very thing that we fear. What we put our focus on expands, we get more of it. What are you putting your focus on? Is it on the things that make you feel good? Take the path of least resistance, go in the direction of what makes you feel good. What makes you feel good is right for you to do. It's conducive to your health, well-being, and lively-hood.

When we do things that aren't in our heart, in alignment with who we are, we feel like its work.

What do you enjoy doing? What is the thing that you would do even if you weren't paid to do it? This is an excellent time to do the soul searching, leading to living the path of your passion.If you're living the path of your passion, this time can be used to fuel it. This is the time for the chance. Whenever we do the things that we love to do, it automatically places us in a higher vibrational frequency. All dramas and pettiness falls away in a higher vibrational frequency. We let go when we vibrate higher, we forgive, and release all that no longer serves us.

And you want to know the main things that no longer serve us? Grudges, anger, sadness, doubt, worry, regret, procrastination, and fear. When we hold onto some offense that happened in the past, we cannot move forward into this new Earth, we will surely be left behind. When we hold onto outdated ways that aren't growing us, we will be left behind, and become bitter. There is a brand new conscious wave coming through, and you're either on the wave, or you're being drowned by it.

I was meditating this morning and thoughts of the past kept arising within me. Some of them were from my childhood, some from my early twenties, and I recognized them, escorting them out of my mind. I kept bringing myself back to the present moment. Over and over again, as the thought came up of some thing that I did to embarrass myself, or what I could have done instead of what I did, I brought myself back to the present moment. A surge of peace came over me, leaving me in a state of bliss.

All that we want to bring to life is in our present moment. Nothing can be controlled outside of our present moment. We can put in good faith, we can put our energy towards what we want to happen, but we must feel this in the present moment. We can't change the past, it doesn't matter how much we think of it. We can drive ourselves crazy thinking of how we can rearrange the past and it will still the same. We can't change the future, but we can picture what we want it to look like. We can hold the image of what we desire in our mind, and our subconscious mind will treat it like we already have it. We get what feel on a subconscious level. So it doesn't matter how many times we say the affirmations, they won't start to move until we truly feel it on a subconscious level. Keep saying the affirmations until they penetrate the subconscious, they will. It's our determination to win that conquers.

This isolation time is not much different from how I already live. My introversion keeps me to myself, and I don't like to go many public places especially restaurants and social places. I like the places in nature, outside to hear the birds, away from the crowds. And I don't talk to many people. I love people like all things, but I truly nurture my relationships, and treat them with care.

I am doing what I like to do. I am refusing to do anything that feels forced. I am saying no to doing things that are not in my heart without a second thought. I have so much to write about and it feels good to write.

Like Abraham Hicks says, "Nothing is more important than that we feel good." Can you think of anything more important that feeling good? It takes much effort to do things when we don't feel good. So I go in the direction of what makes me feel good. We have to make that a practice, a practice of feeling good. Isn't that what self-care is all about, feeling good?

We won't get out of here alive, we must enjoy our time here now. It's not what we have it's what we make of what we have. I will make the best of what I have in grace and gratitude.

What makes you feel good? Write these things down. Make a list of the things that feel good. Do those things. Go in the direction of what feels good. Make plans to do the things that feel good, and leave out the guilt. If you want to binge watch your favorite show, do so without guilt. If you want a piece of cake, eat the cake without guilt. If you skip your work out to rest, do so without guilt. I always say that you can eat whatever you want, if you do so in a happy spirit. It takes a lot of unnecessary energy used to do the things that we don't desire doing. Reserve some time for yourself, dedicating it in doing the things that you want to do.

One thing's for sure, don't get caught up in what everyone else is doing. Don't compare what you're doing to what someone else is doing. Your time will come. It doesn't have to be forced, it will flow. Everything that is meant for you, flows to you, and all things not meant for you, flow away from you. It took me some time to understand this, and once I did, I no longer felt hurt about the things that flowed away from me, I realized that they weren't meant for my journey. They served their purpose and moved on, so I needed to learn how to do the same. They were just passing by.

It doesn't hurt anymore once you realize, "That wasn't for me."

If it was for me, it would still be here. No one can take away what God has for you. It will literally gravitate towards you making it through difficult terrain, rain, tornados, fires, barricades, and floods, to flow to you if it is meant for you. If it has moved out of your life it is for your protection and higher elevation. It is to elevate your spirit to higher highs to get closer to where you came from before you forgot. We forget when we get here why we came. These trials and experiences help us to remember. It puts us in the place to our path. All things happen to us for our highest good, even the most devastating experiences. That's hard to accept, but the Universe is working for you at all times.

This is a time that I like to call "Our Second Chance." And during this time, I have put my focus on keeping my vibration high. Not falling for the old traps that used to steal my joy. Ignoring all that tries to tempt me to anger, to fall back into past habits, and looking for healthier ways to see things that I have no control of changing. Even more, having the patience to sit with what I want to change at this moment, but cannot. To learn what I need to know, so that when it is changed, I am ready for it. I am ready to receive it, and never to return to the way it was before. I am making myself a vibrational match for the things that I love, the things that I enjoy, the things that I want, the things that I picture with my mind's eye.

Infinite love to you all. I pray the safest covering over you and your families.

Thank you so much for reading and supporting my blog!

Even if the whole world is falling apart, I will remain, calm, peace, and serene within.

You own your within.

I'll holla

Quel
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Give your attention to something and love it, and it will give all of its secrets to you.

When we give our attention to someone, and show genuine care for them, they will began to open up to us. They will start sharing parts of themselves that they have kept hidden away from everyone else. They will feel like it's okay to feel vulnerable in sharing the most intimate parts of themselves with you.

Have you ever gotten close to someone because they showed genuine concern for your well-being, your feelings, and you showed your true face to them? Did you tell them things that you thought you would never share with anyone else? Did you feel comfortable in doing so? You felt that it was a safe space to share your private feelings with them, and so you did, right? You felt a love connection so you did so, right?

It is known Universal law that whatever we focus on, we get more of it. When we give our attention to anything, it begins to show up more in our lives. When we show love and attention to someone, we get to see them, we get to really know them. You may know someone on the surface, you have seen their mask, but if you haven't given your attention and shown care for them, you don't know them on a deeper level. This doesn't just apply to people, it applies in all subjects and aspects of our lives.

Whatever your passion is, if it is to write, to paint, to sing, to dance, design, an athletic sport, whatever it is, when you give your full attention to it, love it, and nurture it, it grows and expands. Love has a feeling of expansion, while spite and criticism decreases, and restricts. Whenever we feel disdain, fear, and frustration towards anything we can feel the restriction inside of us. You can literally feel the tightness of fear, anger, and lower emotions. But when we feel love, we experience love, and it feels like wide open space. The world opens up for us whenever we love something, things flow to us easily, and gracefully.

The more we study our craft, the hours that we put into it, the greater the focus that we give it, the better we become at it. We can't get better at something that we avoid, or something that we are afraid of. When you know what you want to do, throw your whole self into it, give it your heart, and it will reveal its secrets to you.

I move forward like a freight train
I don't have time to think about what I fear
I push forward full steam ahead
I don't stop unless I have to
I prepare and keep on top of my maintenance
I take good care of my engine too
I go in the direction of love
I see far ahead too
There are Divine destinations
That I must get to

If we criticize money, it will flee. If we criticize people in regards to money, money will flee from us. Money goes where it is appreciated. Money goes where it holds value and will be used for something valuable. Money goes where it is given attention, where it's cared for, and it stays away from people and places that criticizes it. It keeps away from where it's perceived as dirty.

Money is an energy just like everything else in our lives. What are you saying to your money? Are you grateful every time you circulate your money for something that you want or need? Are you grateful when you pay your bills, or are you angry about the bill? Are you focusing on your money and how to grow it, and have a better relationship with it? Or are you thinking in terms of scarcity when it comes to money? Do you feel like money is hardly around? Do you feel like you don't have enough? Let me ask you this... Do you feel that you have enough for your every day needs? Because it's what we feel, that will be revealed.

In order to have more of something, we must have gratitude and love for it. If we aren't grateful for what we have, how can we seriously expect to have more? We get whatever we feel, so if we feel on a subconscious level that there is never enough, there will never be enough.

This works the same way with love. If we feel we aren't lovable, we won't receive the love that we desire, because we will constantly feel like we don't deserve that love. We will get the love that we feel like we deserve, nothing more, nothing less.

If we put our attention on ourselves, attention on loving ourselves, appreciating ourselves, we will learn the secrets within ourselves. All of the questions that we have been asking ourselves, asking God about our lives, our purpose, and why we are here will be revealed to us through putting our attention on ourselves. When we focus on the inside of us, we meet true spiritual growth. This is where the secrets live on the inside. Everything is made on the inside, and reveals itself on the outside.

Being close to ourselves, getting to know who you really are, learning about what is good for you, and what is not for you, comes through knowing you. If you don't know yourself, you will find yourself going along with things and people who are not meant for you. You will get hurt, and then you will realize that you weren't in alignment with your true nature. You weren't listening to God, and you were suppressing the inner voice that was whispering the truth to you through various ways and clues.

You know, you have always known.

You don't think, you know,
you don't think you know, you know,
you will always know, and you have always known.

We know, we may deny, but we know. Vibration has never been hidden, and never can be hidden, we just ignore it. You know when someone truly loves you, you know when they don't. You know when they don’t like you. I stay away from people who don’t like me. If you put your focus on how someone feels about you, what you feel will intensify. Whatever you think that they feel about you will smother you, because you're focused on it intensely, especially if it's unpleasant.

Let's talk briefly about the word smother: s-mother. Don't be a smothering mother. Some mothers smother subconsciously because they were smothered by their own mother. Mothers smother out of fear. They smother to ensure that their children don't become like them. They want their children to be and do better than them. All smothering comes from needing to heal. It's not for mothers to seek validation through their children. Extreme applied pressure brings a burst from secrets. Our children belong to God.

Unpleasant feelings press down harder on you than pleasant ones. You will know a vibration by how it feels, does it feel light, or does it feel heavy? If it's heavy, it's not for you. How does it make you feel? Are you apprehensive? Are you gravitating towards it? When you give your attention to it, you will re-member.

You will be spending your valuable time focused on something that you cannot control when you focus on what someone else is doing, what they feel about you or don't feel about you. Hurtful experiences can lead us inside, where we need to be. They trigger us to work on our inner relationship with ourselves, leading us closer to walk in our true purpose, and focus on our relationship with the Omnipresent that's always present.

When we want to know more about something, we must focus on it. It's how we learned anything that we didn't know before, it's how we became good at it. When we want to know the deeper inner workings of something, we must love it, feel joy about it, and give it our most undivided attention to it. When we love it, it will love us back, and give us clarity on its obscurities. It will show us the way, the tao, and it will reward us in every way along the way.

This is the secret to knowing you. This is the secret to knowing love. This is the secret to knowing God, the Infinite.
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I didn't know what this entry would be about, it's like a mixture of things, of everything. It's been a month since I have blogged, it's 3 months into the year, and so much has happened within us and all around us. I am not just going to say that so much has happened within me and all around me, because we are all going through something internally, and externally. We are in Saturn Pluto transit as well as the first Mercury Retrograde of the year. So this is a big transformation for everyone, no one gets by unscathed.

It is best that we don't take people too seriously or personally during this retrograde transit, just let people be how they're going to be. Don't argue with them, or stress yourself out trying to get your point across, it's like there's a block, they won't hear you, or understand you well. True story, this has already happened to me today. The Mercury Retrograde goes into post phase on March 10th, and that's where we will see all of our manifestations come to life from the pre-phase. We will be reaping what we have sown. It began on February 16th and the post-shadow phase ends on March 29th.

It isn't a time to be worried about anything that we have planted. I look at Mercury Retrograde differently now, as in what is it trying to teach me. To retro means to redo, to re-visit, re-vise, go back and fix things, and this our chance. There is a special kind of energy available to us at this time period. The Universe is always working to for us, never against us. I heard someone say that God has your back, not the Universe, and it was so confusing to me, because God is everything. How is God not the Universe, if God created the Universe? There are countless names for God, and people use different names, but we are all talking about the same energy, the same Source, that of which everything has come from, and everything returns to.

I also made a commitment to blogging since this is a leap year, and my youngest son was born on a leap year, tomorrow is his birthday. I remember my doctor asking me if I could hold on for one more day so that I could have him on March 1st, I just wanted him to come here safely, it didn't matter much about his birthday.

So I have an extra day in February to make the month for getting a blog entry in, yay! I love writing and it could be about anything, but this blog is about us, and how we can grow internally so that we can flourish externally. I am grateful that you have stuck this thing out with me, I truly appreciate you supporting this blog.

It appears that nothing is ever perfect, but all things are in perfection, because all things are Divine, as everything has its purpose. On the surface it may not appear so, but even the most cruelest things serve a purpose, and tell a story.

When I look at my life and the things that I have experienced, I know that I am here for a special purpose. I have also come to feel that I am settling karmic debts in this lifetime so that I won't experience them in another. I have wondered why some of things that I have experienced happened for me, but I know that there is a larger purpose, and it's not about me as much as I think it is.

You may want to debate on this, but there is no one reason why we have come. We have all come here to elevate beyond our spiritual level, to be guardian angels, and to do Divine work. All of our experiences happened for us to awaken us to the illusion that we have engulfed ourselves in on this plane-t or plan-et.

We become deceived by the very senses that were put in place to protect us. We get caught up in this life in this place like we don't leave it all here. We forget that we are travelers, and we are passing through, but we have some important things to do, as we pass through. We have experiences here, and we emotionally attach ourselves to them, so much so that they will follow us when we leave if we don't detach from them. We forget that we were born to die. And when I speak of dying, I am talking about the deaths that we experience over and over here. It's like we die 1,000 times before we ever leave the plane, spiritually we are re-born again and again. Then we experience a physical death, just of this body and the inner workings of it on this plane, but it's not the end of us.

When you feel like people don't hear you, remember that they can only hear you from their own level of consciousness. This is why your words resonate with some people, and not so much with others. Some people will never hear what you're saying, no matter how loud you're saying it, no matter how much you say it, they have to experience it for themselves. We experience things how we see them, we understand things from our own perspective. Whenever we read something, we read it and relate it to ourselves.

Whatever happens in your life is no mistake, it has a purpose, even if you don't understand it. When we began to compare our lives to others, we can find ourselves feeling horrible. When we wonder why things seem to go so smoothly for another more than for ourselves, we make ourselves feel miserable. We can't see happiness unless we're looking within. With this Saturn-Pluto transit I am sure that you feel a shift within, and if you don't, just give it some time, you will. "Every occurrence of Saturn – Pluto conjunction is a relatively rare event that happens approximately every 33–38 years and lasts slightly over two years. Saturn – Pluto conjunction can be seen as a “global Saturn return” of karmic nature that applies to the whole world."timenomad.app/posts/astrology/event/2019/03/14/timeline-of-saturn-pluto-conjunction-of-2020-and-its-karmic-meaning.html

But this post is not just about this transit and retrogrades, I include those occurrences because they affect us all, whether we know it or not. It's better that we know, so that we don't think that we're going nuts. And then we will also understand why so many people are exiting the plane, and exiting our lives. You can research more of it on your own.

Since the new year, I have experienced ups and downs in all areas of my life, from health, to business, to relationships. I don't any area of my life hasn't been put under a microscope for me to focus on and deal with. If I could ask the Universe for anything, it would be more awareness. I aim to be aware of how I treat people, how I feel when I am around someone, how I feel when I am alone, aware in my choices, and aware of my thoughts. One could never have enough awareness. I truly believe that everything happens as it supposed to, but wouldn't you like to make the choice that would bring the most desired outcome for you? God is in control and I say that again and again to myself, especially when something happens that is uncomfortable or unwanted for me.

Sometimes we become so focused on what happened or didn't happen for us that we miss out on golden opportunities. We may not ever understand why, but we do have to keep going. On this plane, and even when we exit, we are always coming and going, it never stops, it never ends. I have held onto one thing, missing out on another. We say we let go, but then when the conversation comes up, we realize that there is still something there that's nudging at us.

When we are going through tragedy or unfortunate situations, it becomes difficult to shift our minds to bring forth the opposite of what we're experiencing, yet we want things to change. Nothing can change without us changing first. We don't have the control to change a single person on this Earth, not even our children. We can only change what's happening within ourselves, and then the outer environment will begin to change itself.

It's what we believe on a deep subconscious level that will happen, and that happens for us. If we believe that we will always be in a certain situation, that will be true. If we believe that it will never happen for us, whatever it is, that will prove true also. The hardest time that I've had in my life of shifting is what I believe about my health. See with health you become submersed in your senses of what's happening in your body and to you. You feel the pain and the symptoms, so it becomes difficult to shift your mind and heart that you are getting better, that something different is happening for you. But it never shifts, it never gets better, until you get better on the inside.

This is where subconsciousness reprogramming comes in. We must change our program, interrupt our program, break our program, to reprogram. It is a struggle to stay in the uncomfortable space not returning to our comfortable misery. And the subconscious mind will create scenarios cloaked in all kinds of situations and excuses, so that we can return to the old, the old that really no longer serves us. I have been working on my subconscious programming for over 2 years now, and it's still a constant practice. It's like everything else that we do in life, we must practice to make perfect. We learn through repetition. We develop habits through repetition. What are you repeating? What are you continuously telling yourself? What is your inner voice constantly repeating? This is what becomes of us. This becomes our life. This becomes our truth.

Thanks for sticking by my side!
Infinite love to you!

Quel

I'll holla!

You get another chance, as long as you breathe. We get chance after chance throughout lifetimes upon lifetimes. Sometimes we can react to circumstances in our lives like we won't get another chance. We hold onto things that have long left us, outgrown us, and mistreated us, because we don't feel that we will ever get another chance. We allow ourselves to be dragged through the dirt and mud by these thoughts and things as our hands on burn in fire until the rope breaks. When all of this is unnecessary punishment to ourselves as we get another chance, just keep breathing.

We always get another chance, as long as we breathe, and maybe these chances come in different forms, we just don't see them that way. We get opportunities that we don't see as new chances because we are too afraid to trust the process. We are too afraid to trust the possibilities. We are more afraid to trust ourselves. We cannot say that we trust God, if we don't trust ourselves because God works hand in hand with us. If God dwells inside of each and every one of us then every time we move, react, speak, and think, we are acting as a representation of God's, wholeness, and Divineness. We are fragmented pieces of God that makes up parts of this massive Infinite system, but we forget this. We have been given the gift to re-member. We get a chance to re-member, we get a chance to change what we don't like, and we have a choice to accept what we are unable to change by moving forward mentally and physically.

You may not get another chance with people, but you always get another chance with God.

You can give another chance to someone as you would want to have another chance give to you. Treat others offenses as kindly as you would treat your own. I consider my faults when I am showing compassion to another. I forgive even if the person isn’t remorseful. I haven’t always been this way, but I am glad that I made it to this point.

You can apologize to people that you hurt and offend, and your apology can be accepted. And that is a great thing when that happens, we should be most grateful. However sometimes that apology is not accepted. Sometimes we have crossed a forbidden boundary, maybe you have done the same thing too many times and you have used up all of your chances with them, or maybe the person is going through a transformation where they are no longer vibrating on the same frequency level as you, then you won't receive another chance. This is the thing that you cannot change and need the peace to accept that you are unable to change this.

This person is no longer a part of your path, and that is okay. Whatever the relationship was necessary for is now complete, you have been given your spiritual lesson. Now it's time to reflect on what you learned from it, and move forward with that knowledge. The Universe will make room for anew.

As we let go of the things that no longer serve us, we make room for what has been waiting for us all along.

When we begin to heal, we begin to help others heal. The Universe is waiting on you. Everything that you want has always been here, it's just waiting for you. Once you remove the stain from your mind about the unpleasant experience, no longer immersing yourself in the painful memories of it, you open a floodgate for all the goodness that you have been desiring. You get another chance. You may not get another chance with the person who cut you out of their lives, who left you, who no longer wants you in their life, but you always get another chance with God.

Every time we open our eyes from sleeping, there is another chance. It's the greatest gift, the breath of life. Each time you have a chance to walk, talk, eat, work, and enjoy your life, you are doing so off the chances that you have been given. Every time you've been sick, and you got better, you were given another chance. Even when you overspent in your finances, you got another chance. When you lost your job, you got another job, and therefore another chance. If your credit went bad, you still got another chance. If you lost your home or your car, you got another chance. You get chance after chance to make more money.

All we really want is another chance and we get that.

We worry about things that may or may not happen. We worry about things and situations that we have 0 control over, keeping them constantly in our space in our mind. We worry as if we don't get another chance. This was me at one point of time. I acted as if I wouldn’t get another chance, holding onto things, especially the past. I made my situation worse in doing this, and it came to a point where I had to break the painful cycle that I was inflicting on myself.

If things go sour for us, we still get another chance. It will be a different chance, but all in the same, stemming from what we thought would be the end. If worrying brought about solutions, no one would have anxiety, depression, and addictions. We worry as if what we're fearing through this obsessive worrying will be the end all of everything. But great news is here for you, there is no ending, only a endless cycle of continuing.

You are always coming and going, it never ends. Think about it, you come, you go, that is a Law of the Universe.

We are Infinite Ones.
Even after we leave this plane, we go into another chance. The soul never dies, life is never-ending.

We get another chance,
all we have to do is,
Begin Again.

Thanks so much for reading and supporting my purpose here on Earth.

Raquel

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