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"Don't Be Distracted By What Others Are Doing"
It's so easy to get distracted on what someone else is doing and to start comparing yourself to them and their work. You may be looking at them thinking that they are working harder than you, you may even think that they're doing better than you. It may appear to you that they are not struggling as much as you. This is why you need to be focused on you and what you're doing.
This is not a focus that is selfish or self-absorbed, but this a focus that keeps one concentrated on the main thing, the ultimate goal, the manifestation in mind. We may be slow to start or not start at all whenever we are focused on what someone else is doing. We can easily get swept away in someone else's story. It's great to admire and study others that have reached achievements and success in the field that you strive to be in, but it's another thing to be so entrenched in what they're doing that you are not producing for yourself.
God wants our attention to be on elevating our higher self, on tuning into the God within us. We have the same potentials of greatness as everyone else does. We have gifts, we all have gifts, but we all don't utilize our gifts. It's called a gift for a reason, and no one gets the gift like your gift. Your gift is unique and specially designed for you. The more you use the gift the stronger it becomes.
I have compared myself to other writers, poets, speakers, and yogis. I looked at them as being more advanced than me, and the more I looked at what they were doing, the more I doubted what I was doing. The more I gave my attention to what they were doing, the more I was hesitant to begin doing what I loved to do. Every person has a different style and approach to what they're doing. I had to learn to admire what they do and not compare myself and my abilities to it.
The same goes with relationships, status, and where people are on their spiritual journey and in life. We all move at a different level of consciousness. We have to be grateful for where we are if we are looking to progress more. We get more of what we practice, we get more of what we're grateful for. We can't look at someone else's situation and compare ours because you we don't know what's going on behind the scenes. We don't know what that person has been through or is currently going through. People hide a multitude of pain behind smiles. I know this to be a fact because I have. I have considered myself a professional pain hider.
We hide sadness, depression, frustration, anger, and most of all it stems from the pain that we hide. But soon this pain rises to the surface and it begins to show up in our auric field. If we hold onto this pain long enough it will manifest into disease. What is in our thoughts will transfer to our feelings subsequently showing up in our being.
When we place our focus on others, we lose ourselves. We begin to put these people under a microscope and they become the target of our thoughts. We will find it hard to fully concentrate on what we're supposed to be doing when our minds are occupied on what "they're," doing. It takes space in our mind to be honed in on what someone else is doing. To start doing what you want to do, you have to completely let go of everything that is holding you back, and focusing on other people will keep you far back.
What appears isn't always true. We never know what someone is going through. It may seem like they have "it" all together. It may appear that they have a great relationship, marriage, and life may look easy for them, but this isn't always the case. We all fight battles that no one knows about but God.
I am seeing you Infinite love.
We can check on our loved ones, our friends, but we are not to take on their pain. We must remain balanced. We must center our lives around healing and spiritual advancement. We are all healing from what happened to us in childhood, adolescence, inner child wounds, and the past. We heal faster when we begin to do the things that we love without worrying about being scared. Our subconscious mind will try to drag us backwards to old habits and non-action, but I say, drag your subconscious mind along with you forward to successful change.
Keep your mind on the main thing. If someone criticizes you, separate your emotions from what was said, and improve. Don't focus on what is said so much that you become emotionally off balanced and discouraged. Don't stay there or anywhere, keep moving and advancing forward. Always keep moving, keep going, you will get there. What others think about us is none of our business. We have no control over that, we only have control over our thoughts and feeling, and it is a blessed power that we have.
Just think if someone else had the power to control your thoughts and emotions... What a mess that would be...Talk about frustration, we could be driven completely mad.
When you are focused on what you're doing, you won't have time to be focused on what someone else is or isn't doing. It's none of our business anyway. We are here to live out our gifts and full potentials. We are here to enjoy what God has given us and placed before us. When we are focused on what we want to do, our passions, we get it done, and we get it done successfully.
When we focus on what we are doing we judge ourselves less, and we aren't putting in our subconscious mind what other people are doing. We believe in ourselves more, and we bring forth our pure, authentic selves, unfocused on what someone else is doing. When we focus on our own craft, we don't compare ourselves to the strength of another's craft. We center ourselves around our own elevation. We get better and better, we stay on task, we practice more, and we don't hold back. When we stay away from peeping in on what others are doing, we put forth our work without worrying about the way others are doing it, we are not influenced by the way they are doing it.
We take things less personally when we are focused on ourselves. We are less offended when we are focused on ourselves. When we are focused on ourselves we are tuned into our own happiness and we realize that it is the ultimate goal.
"When your focus is primarily on others feelings and behavior, your intent is to find a way to control how others feel about you and treat you. While it may look like you are caring about others when you focus on them, the underlying intent is to get what you want from them. Because you are not focused within and taking care of yourself, your caring about others may be coming from an empty place within -- a place that wants to get filled from others." www.huffpost.com/entry/is-your-focus-within-or-on-others_b_7273284
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