THE ULTIMATE EXPERIENCE
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Love Yourself More...
I know you love yourself, and you can always love yourself more each day. Showing yourself love and kindness will make you feel better about any situation that you are facing.
This is not a cliche' speech of "I love myself."
I am not speaking of vanity, and being preoccupied with one's exterior presence. I am talking about what lies beneath the surface of the shell. I am referring to the tune of your heart, the flow of your thoughts, the truth of your words, and the kindness of your actions.
For the truth about love is what's happening inside
the outside shows lies
hides to create and fantasize
shielding what's happening inside.
When you love yourself more, you will recognize and protect yourself from those that don’t.
Loving ourselves brings back what’s natural for us. By being gentle with ourselves, we begin to remember what we love to do and pursue those things. It is our one true nature to love and be love, be loved. Loving yourself is a practice and it takes conscious work when you’ve been practicing self-betrayal and self-sabotage. It takes breaking the habits that we don’t recognize as self-limiting and self-defeating patterns.
To forgive is freedom for us, to forgive is for us. Yet we don’t have to continue to expose ourselves to the same people who hurt us just because we forgave them. In fact it’s the opposite, loving ourselves is protecting ourselves from the people who have brought us pain and hurt us with no remorse. We are left scarred, then we criticize ourselves for not knowing better. This does more damage. The words that we speak to ourselves become our reality.
What I need to know is revealed to me. Whatever I need comes to me in Divine right order.
Forgiveness is creating peace so that you will have peace. Because you can never have true peace without total forgiveness. Your heart must not be disturbed by anyone and anything to have total peace. The energetic air must be cleared between you and all conflictive situations for you to have peace. The stain must be removed from your mind, cleansed, and put away. You can't give any of your energy to the situation, you cut the cord. It cannot have any of your attention and focus in a way other than understanding the message.
To forgive the people who will never admit to betraying you, disrespecting and hurting you, the people who don't care about hurting, it takes a high level of awareness and compassion for yourself. This takes forgiving someone who is not even sorry. Aware that these people are infants in the spiritual realm, awaiting their awakening, you have compassion for them by showing it to yourself. You come to a feeling of it being okay, because they know not what they do. They may think they do, yet they do not.
They think they’re getting away with it, but they’re just getting by. Everything comes full circle in time, 369, three-dollars and six dimes. These people need to heal, yet refuse to do the work that it takes.
To love ourselves is to protect ourselves from harm and pain. If I came up to you and tried to punch you in to strike you in the face, would you block my hand and defend yourself? If someone was trying to choke you, would fight them with everything that you have inside of you to save your life?
We protect our physical in a powerful way bringing out strength through adrenaline that we couldn't have imagined having when faced with danger?
So why not protect your heart in the same way?
Why not protect your heart by listening to it first off?
Why not guard your heart against people who don’t mind breaking it?
Protecting your heart is protecting yourself.
How about protecting your heart from people who don’t love themselves?
Our hearts need more protection because our heart pain and injury doesn't heal as fast as a physical wound. No one will know the depth of our pain.
The key is to keep our heart protected and open.
When we don’t practice self-love, it’s hard to be conscious in our choices when it comes to matters of love. We look past huge red flags early on because we have developed a high tolerance for looking over them, not wanting to accept what we see. We want it to be different, and we end up making more of the same. It looks different, but time reveals all. This happens to us in friendships, romantic relationships, and even with family because we are not giving the love to ourselves that we seek from others. No one can provide the love that you need for you like you. Everything that we experience happens inside. You taste from the inside, you hear, smell, and feel from the inside.
We struggle with knowing when to say no without practicing self-love. We say yes to people who eventually bring us pain. Our expectations of others can bring us pain when people don't live up to what we imagined them to be. We put people before us again and again that would never do the same in return when we don’t practice self-love. We leave ourselves empty. We lose ourselves and stop doing the things we love for love, and that is where we go outside of loving ourselves.
Loving ourselves is taking good care of ourselves.
Self-love practice is a healing practice. It is unlearning overextending ourselves. It’s keeping our own rules, yet being flexible and reasonable in change.
People who don’t love themselves don’t understand or have real compassion for hurting you. They lack the awareness and humility for what they do to others. They really don't feel good inside, so they don't have the energy to care about how someone else feels. They are holding onto so much fear and pain that is creating a chemical warfare inside of them, that they are trying to hide through ego. They don’t worry about karma, they believe that they can cheat it, or that it won’t be that bad if it comes around to them.
If they're hurting, why should you get to feel good?
Self-hatred is one of the most disguised feelings. It can be masked in many ways, yet always reveals itself in divine time. It sticks out, look close enough you can see it. We practice self-hate when we tell ourselves that something is not good enough about us. Through guilt, shame, and criticizing ourselves practices self-hate. The people that we choose to engage with can show self-hate.
Self-love looks like being you and not giving energy to what another thinks or says about you. It is accepting yourself deeply and completely, how you are now. It’s being you, living in your truth, even when your closest friends and family don’t support you. It’s moving forward even when it’s scary and painful, you flow with the progressive flow of the Universe.
Self-love is eliminating old programs that you think you've been running, yet they are running you. You have to unlearn the patterns that have been keeping you away from experiences that you are seeking. On repeat.
We break malignant patterns through tapping into our subconscious mind to remove the barriers. This takes every day conscious effort and inner work. I work on doing this every day, removing energy blocks, recognizing when I am irritated, and moving and making decisions out of alignment. These decisions bring about the biggest lessons for me, great change inside of me.
When you love yourself, you can feel when a person doesn’t love you. You don’t have to ask, you will know by the way that they treat you.
How you love you sets the tone for how others will love you. If you have a low love tone in place, you will attract the low lovers. If you are willing to accept anything, then you will receive anything, and that is with anything in life. As we teach people how to treat us by what we allow. What we allow has everything to do with our self-worth. Forgetting your power, forgetting that you knew love before you knew anything else. You may have not known what to call it, yet you knew it felt good, and it felt safe for you.
It will break your heart to see that they don’t love you the way that you love them, and when you see, you go.
You go, nothing more.
It doesn’t matter if it’s a friendship or romantic relationship, a love injury hurts just the same, when you feel it, go.
That is loving yourself, listening to the voice that protects and guides you, the voice that says, "Go!"
When you go, you are showing yourself love. You are protecting yourself, because you know that love just flows naturally, it doesn't have force around it.
Whenever you love yourself, you don’t focus on the people who don't love you. You overstand that it’s a waste of time, and of lack of love within to be focused on someone that's not aligned with you.
Stay away from people who can't see your heart.
No one is going to take care of your heart like you do. It is called "the mother organ," of our body, and the name explains it all.
Everything that you need, you came here with inside. God prepares you plenty for your journey, so when someone doesn’t want to accompany you on your journey, they have served their purpose. Step aside and let the lesson move out of the way so that you can gain the reward from it.
You set the standard for love. You deserve the love that you give so freely to others.
When you love yourself, you know the love that you deserve.
Only what is real will remain.
I am sending infinite love to you.
Raquel Givens Jones
Author, blogger, poet, writer, radio show host, animal lover, yogi,
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