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"It's What You Practice that Becomes Perfect"
While doing my self-talk and mirror talk, I came up with this topic of discussion. It's what you practice that becomes perfect. What are you practicing? Like ex-professional basketball star, Allen Iverson said, "We talking bout practice, practice, we talking about practice." (Yeah in is voice) :) Yes we are talking about practice because it is how we prepare for the game.
When I was cheerleader preparing for nationals my coach, Coach Treaudo would always say, we have to do it 3 times in a row without making a mistake, and that's how you know that you've got it. What are you doing 3 times in a row? This topic is so delicious to me because everything that we do, we are practicing. What are you practicing each day? What ya doin? ;) Because whatever it is that you are practicing, you are making it a perfect habit. This topic is also scrumptious for me because it made me take inventory of my life and what I am doing on a day to day basis. What am I practicing?
Am I practicing giving up or going harder? Am I practicing eradicating defeating, toxic, and fearful thoughts, or am I remaining comfortable in my fears? Am I practicing in the evolution of my life, or am I playing it safe trying to remain in the same place with the same people doing the same things? Am I practicing talking about what gets on my nerves and bothers me without change, or am I working on making the necessary changes? Am I practicing toxic cycles, or am I breaking those things down like doors in a police raid? Elevation and evolution requires separation and solitude. I am an introvert by nature and I spend most of my time alone, comfortably alone, because it is a golden time for me to recharge, study, and work on all the traumas that I need to heal within myself.
Are you practicing working on yourself, or are you practicing worrying about what others are doing with their lives and spiritual journey? I am an advocate for 100 percent minding my business, and before I interact with someone, ask them questions, and participate in conversations, I ask myself, is this any of my business? I practice on minding my business, my spiritual business, and my emotional business. I practice on and this one is a BIG one for me, managing my emotions. Since I am emotional and sensitive and I know this, I have to take inventory of my emotional state at all times. I am aware of my emotions and feelings, and I practice on not allowing them to take over me and my presence. I practice not allowing low emotions drive me into poor decisions and fear.
I am practicing on elevating my life to be where I want to be and do what I want to do. I do what I have to do so that I can do what I want to do, and I still do what I want to do. I am practicing on surrendering and letting God show me the way. God is going to show us the way whether we want to see it or not, whether we accept it or not, whether we have to be forced into it or go into with ease, we will be shown the way. It doesn't matter if we like the way or if it's uncomfortable and messy, God is always directing our path towards our Divine purpose. We are always trying to control everything. What are you practicing?
I practice being an attentive listener, listening to truly hear the person out, not to respond. I practice putting my phone down and paying my full attention to who I'm speaking to, especially my children. I practice being kinder. I practice having and showing more patience with my children and with people who seem to be difficult in my life. I practice patience with difficult people because I know that there is some aspect of myself that is being mirrored back to me to heal that irritation within me.
I practice eating more healthier, and not eating late. I practice exercising and doing something physical every day. These things that I am practicing feel like affirmations and what I am affirming for myself. What are you practicing? Think about it for a second.
The most important one of them all is what are you practicing in your thoughts? What are you telling yourself repeatedly? Are speaking health, wellness, wealth, and love, or are you engulfed in thinking about troubles? Are you practicing elite money habits? Are your thoughts conducive to where you want to go and what you want to be? What are you thinking? Because whatever it is, your are practicing your thoughts and they are becoming perfect habits. You know if a thought is good for you or not by the way it makes you feel? Are you practicing feeling better? Are practicing being more aware of your actions and words? These things can become habits real quick and then they are submerged into your subconscious mind, becoming harder to change. Then you will wonder why can't you change certain destructive useless thoughts?
Are your practicing fear? Are you practicing operating out of fear that this will happen, and that will never happen? Are you practicing and manifesting traumatic and painful experiences using fear? I know this all too well because I practiced fear for years. I made fear perfect for me as a small child because of traumatic experiences and I kept it going throughout my adult life. It got me nowhere but sick and anxious. It made the things that I feared come true. I attracted them.
Are you participating in conversations that talk about the impossible? Things that you truly want for yourself, are you joining in with others practicing conversations on how it cannot be? Do you practice saying that you will never have your true and faithful love? Do you practice thinking that you will never find your true and faithful love? Do you practice joining in with other people talking about how y'all will never find a trustworthy mate who love you for you? If you are practicing this, you are sure to make it real and true. Everything that you are practicing will become a habit and we all know that habits are hard to break.
Are you practicing getting into arguments and disagreements with people? Are you practicing going back and forth with people about a difference of opinion? Are you practicing disengaging and walking away? When emotions heighten in a conversation, this is your best time to gracefully bow out. Let the other person out ego you, win, or whatever they're setting out to attain, it doesn't matter. All that matters is the you stay true to yourself and who you are.
Are you practicing keeping your ego in check or you allowing your ego to check other people? Are you practicing letting your ego run your life and make decisions for you? I'm just saying, let us know. ;)
Are you practicing being a better friend, being more supportive to people, especially the people that you love? Are you thinking of ways that you can make someone else's day brighter and be kinder? Are you practicing having a better attitude? And when your attitude is low, are you practicing not dumping your toxicity on others? Are you practicing raising your vibration? Are you involved in things that will raise your vibration? Are you journaling and saying your affirmations? Are you praying and or meditating? Are you practicing healing or are you just accepting being uncomfortable in your mind?
Are you practicing for what you want to be in life ultimately? Are you practicing visualizing and imagining where you want to be, what you want, who you want to be with, and what you want to do? Have you given up because it doesn't seem like it's coming fast enough? Are you practicing letting go of the old so that you can make room for the new?
Are you practicing forgiveness? Forgiveness opens up space where we have energy blocks in our bodies for more of the good stuff to come in, the stuff that we want. Forgiveness strengthens our bodies and builds endurance within us. We are just happier when we forgive because forgiveness is for us. Imagine yourself hugging the person that you hurt you. It could be someone at work that something irresponsible to you, it could be an ex-lover who brought much pain to your life, it could be a parent, sibling, family member, or friend. Imagine yourself feeling all of the pain that they brought you for 2 minutes, and then let it go free. Then imagine seeing this person and hugging them.
Even if this person hasn't apologized or shown remorse. Remember and always remember that this is for you, to free you from the harm that is caused by harboring pain. Harboring painful events and experiences can literally make you sick, because your chi (or life force) is unable to flow free through your energy centers or chakras. Practice these visualizations and you can move towards healing. I do them repeatedly, every day. I practice forgiving someone every day, and if the painful thought rises up in me, I practice the forgiveness exercise all over again. Most of the time, I just cut to the part where I am visualizing me hugging them, and I am not a hugger so it's the most challenging part for me.
Physical touch is known to release oxytocin, a hormone which is referred to as the "love hormone." I need to practice hugging. :) It is said that 8 hugs a day, improves one's immunity.
"It turns out the love hormone oxytocin is two-faced. Oxytocin has long been known as the warm, fuzzy hormone that promotes feelings of love, social bonding and well-being." www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2013/07/130722123206.htm You can read more about oxytocin and why it's called the two-faced hormone here.
Hugs reduce pain, fears, and stress making one happier. I hug people who have an inviting energy of hugs, but people who don't are the ones who need the hugs most. We touch each others hearts when we hug. I have a hard time hugging people sometimes because of the vibration that I can feel coming from them.
"Family therapist Virginia Satir once said, “We need four hugs a day for survival. We need 8 hugs a day for maintenance. We need 12 hugs a day for growth.” While that may sound like a lot of hugs, it seems that many hugs are better than not enough." www.healthline.com/health/hugging-benefits#5
How are you preparing for the game? Are you practicing or are you just going to wing it? I have winged it and whew Chile, I developed some poor habits. Are you going practice and keep doing what you want to be, or are you going to practice staying where you don't want to be?
Your choice, we all have a choice.
Are you practicing love? Are you practicing putting love into everything that you do? If you can't do it in and out of love then you probably shouldn't be doing it.
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