THE ULTIMATE EXPERIENCE
Come, sit with me, close your eyes, hold my hand, let's go far away from this place to the place in which you came from.
"Ask yourself, is this worth my happiness?"
As I was meditating this afternoon, this topic came to my mind, "how much is your happiness worth to you?"
I gave the question some space so that you could think about it. A bigger question is, what are you sacrificing your happiness for? Is it a job, a person, a relationship, a habit? I am asking because everyone has a different tolerance level for bs and what they are willing to sacrifice their happiness for. It took me awhile to remember how important happiness is to me. It took me becoming sick with a terrible disease, and after it whipped my butt up and down, I said, "Oh I get it now." I began to think about all of the things that led me to the point of dis-ease, dis-ease in the body. I was living unhappily, doing things that made me unhappy, didn't realize that I was unhappy, hanging with people who didn't bring happiness, and not being true to myself.
I am excited to talk about this with you, because this is my 1st official day to committing to my happiness by any means necessary. Yesterday I wrote about making a commitment to keep the same innergy through madness and tribulations, and this is like a spin off from it. I don't think we realize how much we overlook our own happiness for so many unnecessary things. Hmm. where do I begin? :)
I feel that the main thing that we override our happiness for is caring too much about what others think of us. This is where our ego comes into play and plays tricks on our mind and heart, the true mind. We contemplate our decisions and think about the aftermath of how they will affect others, and how will they respond to our decisions, when it's our decision to make. Our happiness doesn't depend on people being happy for us. It would be great if they were happy as long as we are happy, but that isn't always the case. It would be awesome if they were happy for us, but that's not always the case either.
Happy people are happy for people.
This can be especially true with our parents, and this is where boundaries are crossed, making it an emotionally unhealthy relationship. Do you know that you have to live for you? No one can live inside of your mind and body for you? No one can live for you, so doing what's best for you, is the best thing to do. Since you have to live your life, wouldn't it be better if you lived it happily? There are so many people living off of their parent's wishes and dreams, lying to themselves, not being their true selves, and this breeds a life of unhappiness. Then once they decide to make a change, everyone is appalled that this person has the nerves to do something for themselves.
You may want to move to a certain area, wear certain clothes, go to a certain place, choose a particular mate, start a new career, but become apprehensive in doing so because of the response that you may get from others. On social media you might want to post your new ideas, business, a photo of yourself, your successes, or words that have been on your heart, but hesitate because you are worried about the response that you will get. It is your page, and it 's your life, if people don't like what you're doing and posting, they can easily unfollow you.
Unconditional love says, "Unconditional love is known as affection without any limitations, or love without conditions. This term is sometimes associated with other terms such as true altruism or complete
Do you know unconditional love? Unconditional love is true love?
Do you know what unhappiness can do to your mind and body?
"Poor emotional health can weaken your body’s immune system. This makes you more likely to get colds and other infections during emotionally difficult times. Also, when you are feeling stressed, anxious, or upset, you may not take care of your health as well as you should.
change in appetite
constipation or diarrhea
general aches and pains
high blood pressure
insomnia (trouble sleeping)
palpitations (the feeling that your heart is racing)
shortness of breath
weight gain or loss
"Sadness can have negative physical side effects, too, which range from disturbances in your sleeping patterns to an increased risk of heart attack and stroke. Additionally, while sadness and depression are not the same thing, both sadness and depression have many of the same physical side effects — so ignoring extended periods of sadness can actually be quite detrimental to your health."
You could say, "well I'm not sad," but what's the opposite of happiness?
It's okay to be sad, it's just not okay to stay there for extended periods of time. It's not okay to stay in situations that reinforce sadness for extended periods of time.
I had to put a gross amount of information about being unhappy because I know how it feels to be sad too well. I have been in situations of unhappiness for long periods of time. I have felt the effects of being unhappy for extended amounts of time. I have lived inside of a depressed mind and body, and it makes your body feel heavy and weighed down. It's hard to exercise, pull yourself together, and enjoy much of anything. I lived off of sadness for an extremely long time until my eyes just became sadder and sadder, and there was no way to hide it. The eyes never lie. I didn't know what to do about my health condition, it seemed to be attacking me constantly, but I was living in a sad fearful mind, attracting much of the pain that I experienced with my health.
Even if I go to an unhappy place now, I have an emotionally sensitive body, so the pains come quickly. My back will start hurting, my stomach will be upset, my muscles will tighten, and I will have stress in my shoulders, headaches, all from focusing on thoughts that don't feel good. I have learned from stress pain to choose a higher thought. It is said that the number 1 cause of disease is stress, and that's not unbelievable since everything happens in the spirit first, then crosses over to the physical. Stress and being upset has triggered more flares with disease for me than any unhealthy food, medication, and lack of exercise could have. I call stress the CEO of disease.
I told myself, "no more," no more will I allow unhappiness to rule MY life. The thing with being unhappy, is there is nothing that anyone can do to make you happy. No big house, no exotic car, no person, no job, no career, no money, can make you happy, it is a state of being that has to be unmovable, because all of those things are movable. Even if you acquired all of the things that you wanted thinking that they will make you happy when you're unhappy, you will find that your happiness is a ruse, temporary, and totally untrue.
You could spend a lifetime chasing happiness, when happiness is found inside of you.
I know that some people think, well, when I get this... I will be happy, or when I get the relationship that I want, then I will be happy. Newsflash here: No one wants to be with an unhappy person unless they're unhappy too. Then they will clash with each other because unhappy and unhappy doesn't equal happy. They will just be unhappy together, in conflict, pettiness, and nitpicking. An emotionally healthy person will run the other way fast from a person who's drowning in their miseries. Happiness will attract many people, especially a happy counterpart. No one wants the responsibility of trying to make us happy. Yes people can add value to your life, but they cannot make you happy, and hold you in that space. You will always return back to the way your subconscious mind is designed, unless you make a conscious choice and effort for change.
This means being aware of the triggers, and not falling for every little external thing that ticks you off, stepping out of alignment with your purpose, and your true nature. You have to become aware of your inner state and your most personal inner thoughts to keep your inner change going in a direction of success.
For instance, on today someone I know made a face like that didn't believe me when I was talking about some plans that I have in motion. In that moment, like all of my moments, I could see through this person, and I could hear what they were thinking about me. They didn't think that I was capable of what I was saying that I was doing. There was a time when this kind of encounter would have hurt my feelings, and triggered me, but I felt nothing. I smiled because I know that the highest power has my back, front, and sides on all things. I noticed, took note, and I know for sure not to ever get too comfortable around them, sharing anything ever again. But then again, I already knew that. Happiness makes you want to open your heart and share.
We create our own happiness, happiness is found within you.
Everything doesn't have to be perfect for you to be happy. You can be happy about life and not happy about particular situations in your life, but accepting of it, in faith for change.
For example, you can be happy and not happy about your loved one passing away, about a loved one being in prison, a situation with your child, or not happy about the way your relationship is going or how it turned out. But you can find acceptance, and in acceptance, you can come to understand why, and then you will know that your happiness is a must.
How do you feel about your job? Is it your ideal job, your passion, do you love it? I have worked a job where I became disgusted after awhile just showing up to it. It got better as I moved around in positions, but it wasn't the job as much as it was the people and the energies that I was around. The majority of the people there were unhappy, and you could never share any good news with them. Out of thousands of employees, I only had authentic relationships with 3 people. There were some kind people there, but you almost had to beware of them too. It is said that most people don't hate their jobs, they dislike the environment with the co-workers and people there.
When I left that career, I left a sizable income behind, but I gained my sanity. I felt afraid when I stepped into the water at first, but I was glad that I finally left the shore. At that moment, my life finally began. I gained the freedom that many of the people who still work there would love to have, but they're waiting on their retirement. Some of the people who worked there, took a chance, left and started a new career, and the people left behind, talked about how they would fail, and probably return back. Only a fool returns back to its own vomit.
And last but not least, now that I have held you, talking and talking, because I can go on forever with this subject. ;) I must talk about how we allow ourselves to be brought out of happiness because of what someone has done or said to us. If we are truly happy, it should be harder for people to bring us out of our state of being. If we are solid in our happiness, nothing that they say or do will bring us out of our happiness because our happiness isn't built around them. Our happiness can't depend on another's actions, that is shaky ground, that we will fall through. It's not dependable to be happy because the way someone else is behaving towards us. If a person is a constant threat to messing with our happy state of being, we could disconnect from them.
I am a firm believer that when you disconnect from people, you get to feel the raw vibrational energy in between. You come to know things that you would probably excuse if you kept keeping company with them. Solitude is the best remedy to cultivating happiness. In times of seclusion, you become keen in your sense of feeling, and then you know who needs to be near you, and who you need to be far away from. You lose feelings of dislike and displeasure towards people in solitude, your heart expands in love.
I cannot tell you how many times I have allowed myself to be triggered by something someone said or did to hurt my feelings, make me angry, and question myself. But then I had to ask myself, "why am I giving away my happiness to this person?" "Why does it matter what they say or do?" "Why am I focused on it?" "Why does it bother me so much?" These questions will take you to a place of self reflection, and help you to realize that nothing that others say or do has anything to do with you. People react from their own state of being. It's really all about them, and has absolutely nothing to do with you. Some people spend most of their lives projecting, it's always someone else's fault and they can point the finger at another person. I take that finger and point it back at myself.
Everyone has a special person that can just get under their skin and they try to fight off the feelings of dislike, but the best thing to do is to get far away from anything and anyone who threatens our happy feelings.
One more thing, stop feeling guilty for your happiness. You deserve to be happy. You didn't come here to be sad, did you? You came here to enjoy life to the fullest. You came here to experience love and happiness. You came to live out your Divine purposes. Don't suppress your happiness because someone else is not happy. You don't have to gloat and show off your happiness when they are unhappy, because that is just wrong and inconsiderate on so many levels. It's hard to be happy when someone you love is sad, and that is just sad.
Happiness is not telling everyone and showing everyone that you're happy. Happiness is chill, it's stillness, it's calm, it's peace.
Okay I am stopping myself now, I am done.
Be happy, it is great for your health.
I love you, be happy, let's be happy together,
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Raquel Givens Jones
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