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Giving Up Isn't Easy, You'll Think About It
This is more of a message to me because there are times when I have felt like giving up on many things that I do and have done in my life. It seems like it's easier to give up, but it's something that you will always remember. When I am speaking about giving up, I am not talking about the things that are toxic for our lives. Please give those things, people, and situations up, before they tear you up.
I was thinking today that I would write about something else, but I mentioned to someone today that I thought about giving up on a project that I have been working on, and I seemed to keep missing the mark. The person was in disbelief, and they said, "I can't believe that you are considering giving up." "You know that if you give up, you will never be able to get over it!"
I laughed, because it's so true. I have the words, "let it go" in Zulu tattooed on my arm, "Kuyeke Kuhambe." That should tell you everything that you need to know about me.
I don't give up. I have when I thought I had no other way, but it's not my go to. I will keep going sleepy, tired, exhausted, and stressed, and that's not necessarily a good thing either.
Have I thought about giving up in many situations and on many things? Yes, totally, but the thought of giving up enters mind, but never makes it past my mind, or have time to settle in, before I push it out. If you have thought about giving up or you're about to give up on something or someone that is extremely important to you, I urge you to reconsider and do some things with God first.
First of all, our prayers are answered through our feelings. The way we feel about a situation, can predict the outcome of it. Sometimes we just need to ease up, not give up. We try too hard sometimes, and we don't have to try. All we have to do is keep going, keep doing it. Everything will come together for us when we least expect it, when we stop craving it's results, and obsessing over it. Just when we are about to give up, it happens for us.
If we're focused on the task at hand with a good pleasant feeling, by all means keep focusing and tuning into it. However if thinking about it makes us nervous, tense, frustrated, and scrambled, then we need to take our focus off of it, and do something that we enjoy, something that makes us feel good.
The key is feeling like it's already done so that we can get into the flow of that good feeling. Just think now of something that you would love to have or do, and pay close attention to the feeling that comes over you when you think about it, about having it, about doing it. How about closing your eyes and saying aloud 5 times, "I can have anything that I want." "I can do anything that I want." What came to your mind when you tried it? We make things so hard sometimes, and we make them seem unattainable. If Sue can get it, then you can too. If Joe can do it, then you can too. What is so different, so good about them that they can have it and do it, that's different from you? God loves us all, but all of us aren't tuned into God's energy. Some of us are tuned into fear energy like it's never going to happen for us.
Fear repels the thing that we are setting out to attain. Fear encourages us to give up. I have done this, and if I am not conscious in what I am doing, I fall back into the trap of fearing and pushing away what I am setting out to achieve.
If it's not happening fast enough, and we are not seeing the results soon enough, we are ready to self-sabotage ourselves and find the nearest exit. We start making excuses, subconsciously creating scenarios that will prevent us from doing it, all fear driven. If we took all our energy and put some love towards what we are doing, loving it before it makes it's physical appearance, the experience would be much better for us. My friend and benefactor Cheryl Polote-Williamson always says, "See it before you see it." How can we expect to have it, if we can't see ourselves having it. Say this, "I can see myself having...." whatever that is for you. We have to stop treating things like they're impossible.
If you are to practice anything, practice your imagination. Forget the days when you were told that you were just imagining things, forget when you were told to stop daydreaming. Please don't ever stop imagining and daydreaming. When we imagine and daydream, it feels like we are there and enjoying whatever it is that we're dreaming about. Scientists did a test where they hooked up the participants to brain scans where they would measure brain activity and observe the part of the brain that would light up from doing a particular exercise. One group was doing the exercise, while the other group was just imagining doing the exercise. The same area of the brain lit up in the group that was imagining doing the exercise as the ones who were actually performing the exercise movements. Actually the participants who were imagining doing the exercise, brain activity lit up more than the ones who were physically doing the exercise.
I have literally visualized myself into doing things and coming out of gravely ill conditions.
I had to turn off the part of my brain that was going down the fear hole of what was going to happen to me, what would happen to my children if I was gone? I had to turn it around and mentally hold images of me being physically healthy. It was tough, but I had nothing but time to keep practicing these mental images. I still use these visualization techniques in meditation and whenever I get a chance to do it, especially before I am going to sleep, and when I am waking up, while my brain is in theta wave activity mode.
If you give up, you will never know what could have been. Then you will be telling your story saying I shoulda, coulda, woulda. Your mind will get the best of you, and you will play out scenarios and potentials. I have done this on things that I have given up on when I was in my 20's. I had to learn to live with the regret of things that I gave up on, because I thought there was no hope, I couldn't find another way, lacking faith, and I was letting my fearful emotions guide me. It was mostly material things that can be replaced. I remember when I was a child, and I wanted to give up on a sport that I was in, and I can recall my Mother telling me, "no, you will not give up, because if you do, you will learn the habit on giving up on everything." I had never thought of it that. way, I was in awe, but she planted a seed. As an adult she told me not to give up on the things that I did only to later regret, listen to your Mom.
You are standing at the fork in the road, you can go backwards, but I promise you that you will never find happiness that way. You can go to the left, to the right, or keep moving forward, and each way will lead you to a valuable lesson, and outcome.
It doesn't matter how slow you go, just keep going. Even if you're doing a little bit at a time, keep doing it. I remember my Grandmother on my Mother's side formed her grandchildren as a church choir and she would have us sing all over, in different cities, and states. We would enter the church, stepping in line, from smallest to tallest, and I was usually at the front. We'd enter the church singing a cappella, the song, "One Step," "One step, one step, all I have to do is take one step and he will do the rest, my cousin led the song."
This song has stuck with me all of my life, it is true that all we have to do is make one step. When we decide that we are going to do something and nothing is going to stop us, the Universe comes along to aide us in synchronicity. The Universe is always here waiting for us to work with us, never against us.
I know that it gets beyond hard, and we are fumbling around in the dark, just keep going straight. We can't see where we are going, but we can visualize the end of it, if we keep persistence with us. We will see the light if we keep going and moving forward. Just imagine where you were last year, physically, mentally, and financially, I bet you're in a better place now. I bet you're stronger now. Every time you choose not to give up, you gain more power, you get stronger, and then you realize that you have come too far to turn back, to sit down. You realize how far God has brought you, and didn't bring you this far to leave you.
Giving up, yea it's a thought, a lower thought, but we don't have to keep thinking that thought. When you think about giving up on that thing, does it feel good to you? How does it feel? Does it give you an uneasy feeling? I have been writing for eons upon eons, I started writing stories when I was 8 after I read, "I Know Why The Caged Bird Sings." I was a little young for the contents of that book but it was inspiring, then I read, "What's Love Got to Do With It," and "Malcom X," I was too young for those, but man were they good. :)) I just kept reading and reading, I think I was trying to build my confidence to write. My Grandmother made all of us write, especially if we said that we were bored.
I keep writing, I wrote when I was confined to hospital beds, I wrote through pain, I write through happiness, I write when the words seem to be stuck, I write when I don't want to write, and when I am not writing, I am thinking about writing. I don't give up, even if I don't have a crowd. Reaching one person, hearing them tell me that what I wrote helped them, they felt it in their spirit, gives me encouragement, and brightens my heart, all fear disappears. I have stopped writing before, but I always return, it's my home.
I said all of that to say, don't give up on something that you can't stop thinking about. We don't have to keep asking God, we put in our request already, now it's time to release, and keep going. It's time to keep feeling like it's already happened, like we're living it now. Think about what would it feel like for you to have the thing that you would love to have? Close your eyes and imagine having the thing that you would love to have, send love to it. Only the things that you love will stay. What you criticize, treat like an option, give no preference to, and ignore, will go away. It will be hard to catch it, and get it back, when you treat it like you don't want it.
I could say so much more on not giving up, remember that God will never give up on you, and it doesn't matter who gives us on you, don't you ever give up on you, you have the same God that believes in you, in you.
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