THE ULTIMATE EXPERIENCE
Come, sit with me, close your eyes, hold my hand, let's go far away from this place to the place in which you came from.
"You Never Know Love Until You Love You"
I went back and forth with myself about what I would write about for today between two topics. As I sat down to write, this is the first one out of the two that came to my mind. Do you know love? Of course you do, we all know love. The real questions are, "Do you put love into action? "Do you feel love for you?
When we think of love, we are prone to thinking outside of ourselves. Love comes from within. I know I am about to talk about love which I love to talk about. If our love for ourselves is based on the love that we crave from someone else, then we are not truly loving ourselves. If our love is centered around the love coming from someone else, then we become a slave to them. We are not loving ourselves. We have placed our own love on the back of someone else.
I found through my journey in this life that I have to love myself regardless if I don't receive love from anyone else. The same people that we look to receive love from are trying to love themselves. This is not a selfish egotistical type of love that I speak of, but it is a love of patience, kindness, gentleness, acceptance, and above all forgiveness of one's self.
When we do something that turns out to be an unpleasant experience, this is a perfect time to dig inside and recognize the love that is in there. We get down about the unpleasant experience and we can end up a dark place. When we do end up in that dark place, then we can do the shadow work to heal ourselves from the love injury, ultimately emerging wiser, healed, and lighter. When we are rejected in any kind of relationship, this is the moment to look inward and bring forth the power of love that we have within. Yea at first we will feel sad, doubtful, and insecure about ourselves and the experience of being rejected, but we are actually being divinely redirected, not rejected. There is something special waiting for you when you let go of the things and people that no longer serve you. God is always looking ahead of you. God can see further than you. God is trying to tell you something. Listen or learn.
Having gratitude for our life and loving our life, in spite of its conditions, is love. Gratitude and love swing hand and hand together bringing about this powerful force of higher vibrations and manifestation. Learning to love your life changes your life for the better making your life enjoyable and happy. You may not be where you want or where you see yourself being in life, and that is good, because you know that there is something better for you. You know that you can have more of what you love. You have to keep loving. Look in that mirror and say, "I love you," "I forgive you."
It took me awhile to have gratitude for my life and my journey because of my dealings with illness took me to the darkest holes somewhat of an abyss in my mind. I had to come to love my journey and the things that happened for me, to stop judging the things that happened for me, because they are shaping me at this exact moment. All of those experiences, I have accepted of being a significant part of my journey. Even though they hurt, I needed to encounter every part of it, this life that I call mine, belongs to God.
I had to face the major outer changes of my face, my body, and embrace all of it's scars and stories that I told. I had to look beneath the surface of what I saw on my physical, to see that I am still who I am underneath this illusional body. My soul is who I am, atma. My physical appearance doesn't define me, my vibration does. I had to learn to show up in vibration, not in physical nature. We show up with a physical appearance that looks great, that looks beautiful to the eyes, appealing to the senses, show up with a vibrational frequency that looks good inside, that gravitates love towards you.
When we know love, we are honest with ourselves and we hold ourselves accountable for what we do. We recognize what we need to do to change our lives for the greater, and we begin to work on it. We work on it, even in baby steps, we take those steps, and those steps begin to add up moving us closer to our dreams and goals. When you love yourself , you take care of yourself with the most loving care. You eat foods that will be medicine for your body, you think thoughts that are in harmony with health and feeling good, you participate in conversations that make you feel good, you do things that are good for you and enhance your spirit, and you stay from people and things that don't coincide with how you want to feel.
When you love yourself, you come to overstand that you must fully love yourself even if the love of your life walks out of your life. You love yourself even if it feels like no one is loving you. Even if you don't have the romantic relationship that you desire, you still love you. That is loving you. No one is going to come and love you, if you are not emitting love from within yourself. It's a hard task to try and make someone love themselves. The only thing that you can do for someone who doesn't love themselves is to love them, look at them with love, treat them with love, and show them love. Be an example of love through the way that you love yourself.
When we are hard on ourselves, harshly judging ourselves and others, we repel love from us. Are the thoughts that you're thinking in line with love? Are the actions that you're taking in line with love? When we judge something and treat it unkindly, thoughtlessly, we lose it. Love stays where it's loved.
Love is about protecting yourself too. Whenever you truly love yourself, you don't allow people to continuously hurt and treat you with disrespect. You get far away from people who treat you with a lack of respect. You learn from experience the people who have no regard for your feelings, the people who have an unsavory attitude towards you, and point out things on you or within you, that they know would hurt you. Don't allow anyone to project their miserable feelings onto you. People who don't feel good about themselves, look for flaws and criticisms in everyone else. You remember who you are. You remember that you felt love before you felt any other emotion, because you are love.
You knew love first. The first person to ever take care of you showing you love as a child, you loved them, you felt love. You may have known the words for your feelings, but you knew that it felt good. That is what love feels like. That is the love that you need to feel for yourself.
You are always on time.
Every other emotion or feeling that doesn't stem from love feels out of balance with who you truly are. This is how you know that you are love. Everything that doesn't feel like love doesn't feel like you, and it doesn't feel right to you. It feels uncomfortable when it doesn't feel like love. Feel free within yourself and that free feeling will spill over into everything else. Love freely, love is free, protect your love by how you treat yourself, and how you allow other people to treat you.
With love for yourself comes boundaries for you and others too. You don't cross boundaries going too far into disdain and despair because you know that those feelings will not bring love to you. You don't allow people to bring you out of peace into angry moods because you know those feelings aren't conducive to you loving you. You don't allow people that hurt you to make you feel bitterness and distrust of every one else, because you know that is not feeling love inside of you. Bitterness and resentment blocks love from flowing through you and keeps love from coming to you. This is totally allowing someone else who doesn't love themselves to take love from you.
When people love themselves, they will do everything in their power not to hurt you. Hurting you will make them feel bad too. That's love. Love says, "I don't want to hurt you, and whatever I say to you, I say to you in love."
When we feel like we won't be accepted and loved, we are totally ignoring the love that we have inside of ourselves. We have to do the mental work so that if someone isn't showing us the love that we desire, we don't crumble. Our love CANNOT be dependent on another. No one should have that kind of control over us. Yes for us to receive and feel love from others feels absolutely great. Every person wants love reciprocated and to feel the blissful feeling of love, it feels exhilarating. We have to be able to conjure up that same blissful feeling within ourselves. It's when we attach ourselves to that love feeling from them that lines blur on the love that we are supposed to hold for ourselves. This puts us at risk for being hurt and left feeling lost if things go unpleasantly. We get lost, but in getting lost, we are found.
Keep some of that love for you.
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Raquel Givens Jones
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