THE ULTIMATE EXPERIENCE
Come, sit with me, close your eyes, hold my hand, let's go far away from this place to the place in which you came from.
"We Connect More Through Love"
Anger is not our true nature that's why it feels so unpleasant. It is why harboring anger can make us sick, because it turns into toxic waste, a parasitic feeding energy that spreads. It harms us and our health, because it places us out of balance with our true nature.
We don't want to be mad. We get mad at people for making us mad, how funny is that?
The after taste of anger is defeat. You never win against anger, it just uses you, and uses you up until there is no viable energy left in you for you.
It's not that we won't get angry, anger is a natural response. Anger is not the real problem, holding onto it is. When we find it difficult or impossible to release the anger, we become captive, and out of control with self.
Anger is always about something that we cannot control. It is deeply rooted in fear about losing control of situations that we never had control of in the first place. Anger is attached to the past, about what happened, and its feelings are never about the present moment for long.
Anger connects us, especially when we are angry about the same thing. This same anger can destroy us and our connections to each other. Anger creates separatism and gives the illusion of ego power.
We connect more through love.
Even though it's easy to get angry, anger is not an easy feeling. It's uncomfortable and feels yucky because it places a dark energy around us. Remaining in an angry state takes a substantial amount of our life force, and as easy as it may seem to us to be in anger for extended periods of time, it is extremely hard on our bodies.
Being in an angry state weakens our immune system, making us susceptible for getting sick. We give away our awareness in anger, our consciousness can't be heard. While in anger we do things to hurt others bringing them angry energies, and we don't realize how far the energy will travel when we pass it. We don't care whenever we're angry, we want to be heard, we want revenge, we want it to be the way that we want it to be.
We lose understanding forgetting that there are higher powers at work.
If you become angry about something, taking your anger out on someone else, especially someone who isn't able to equally defend themselves, you pass this destructive energy on to them. They are more likely to hurt someone else because of the pain that they feel from being hurt by your anger. This is how children get hurt by parents and other children.
Even if you don't believe in spells, anger is a spell. The words we speak create spells; spelling.
Spell definitions I found in an old dictionary and online: an indeterminate period of time
Middle English, talk, tale, from Old English; akin to Old High German spel talk, tale
: a spoken word or form of words held to have magic power
: a state of enchantment
: a strong compelling influence or attraction
Ex: Dad is angry about problems with work and/or his relationship with Mom, something that he needs to heal inside, and the child does something like; being too loud, not doing a chore, it could be something small. As this unhealed anger festers in Dad, he then takes it out on the child going overboard in disciplining the child. Child is angry and hurt, feeling that it was unfair to be treated as such by someone he loves and someone who is supposed to protect him. The child has no escape. Child takes out anger on bullying other children, or even subtly creating chaos between siblings and peers. Child doesn't feel love, and feels angry. Child performs and lives a facade to make the parents happy. This is not the child's job.
This scenario is one of many. Children are being abused across the world because of some adult's unhealed anger. This could be the Mom, and she could be angry about how her life is going, she could be angry at the father, becoming 10 times harder on the child to try and make the child different from the father in her eyes. She creates more damage than an absentee father with this overbearing behavior. She is angry, and her harsh and criticizing words beats the child down, showing disappointment at the slightest infraction from the child. She is creating an angry damaged person who will have a difficult time believing that they are enough. This child will be prone to hurting others or allowing themselves to be chronically hurt by others no matter how much love is present or absent.
Codependent adults are children that walked on eggshells.
Anger is a contagious powerful energy leaving a trail of defeat. It completely zaps us of our vital energies that we NEED.
Anger is passed on and on until someone puts a stop to it. It continues until someone says, "I am in control of how I feel." "These emotions aren't mine, and I release them with ease." This destructive emotion continues to pass until someone says, "no more!"
I am that someone. I broke through my anger. I was more mad than I could ever imagined being and when I looked inside, I realized that I was only angry with myself.
I was angry about things that I couldn't control. I was angry about my past choices that didn't turn out like I wanted them to. I was angry because I was sick. I was angry because I had to change my whole life. I was upset about what I had lost. I was mad at how doctors had treated me, how they didn't listen to me, and how I let them in. I was hurt about being misunderstood. I was taking the blame for everything. There is no blame, all happenings are Divine works in Divine time.
Anger is dripping in pride, letting our false ego drive. It's not to eliminate or suppress the ego that's ever present, it's to merge with it in balance.
Your anger has a purpose, use it for your benefit.
We can use anger for our benefit. It took anger to get me started on my healing journey. I had to be fed up with being sick and feeling emotionally and physically drained. I am continuously using anger to propel me forward. I use anger to heal my body, financial situations, and undesired life circumstances. I use anger for change. I use anger to beat defeat. More importantly, I use anger to understand. In anger, I am led to understanding and purpose. I am led to let it go.
I see the anger, and recognize it's presence, I go inside for why, and I transmute it into something powerful.
When I am powered by anger, I overpower anger. I choose healthier ways to deal with my anger.
I use anger for higher purposes to conquer whatever's trying to beat me.
Anger is a natural response, yet not our true nature.
Anger is reflection of the unhealed, a deep reflection of what we feel in fear.
Our true nature is love, and all that stems from it. We get angry for someone hurting us or someone we love, and that is expected. It becomes toxic when the anger stays, becoming a temperament, turning into resentment, blaming ourselves for not preventing what happened, when we never had control.
I know that anger is always present, just peeking around the corner, so I use it for my benefit instead of letting it use me.
It's so much healthier to feel happy. It feels good to feel happiness.
All that matters is that you feel good. The stuff I used to get angry about in the past, I smile at now, and it's a real smile because I understand. I understand that it’s easier for people to project rather than reflect.
Affirmation: I am balanced, calm, and serene whether life is going the way I want it to or not.
So much love to you, may you feel peace, that is unmovable by all around you.
“He who blames others has a long way to go on his journey. He who blames himself is halfway there. He who blames no one has arrived.” ~Chinese Proverb
I don't even get mad anymore, I be like, "let me know if it's a problem then, aight man holla then." ~the Real Kayne :)
Raquel Givens Jones
Author, blogger, poet, writer, radio show host, animal lover, yogi,
Subscribe to Newdayze for the latest blog posts! Thanks!